I wish people would remember.

[monozukineko.livejournal.com]

I wish they'd remember that my multiples are not characters. They're not always controlled by the will of the writer when they're spoken to via instant messages. Treating them like 'just another roleplay' will get someone hurt... me, if you're not careful. One stepping in to stop the other from wanting to tear a hole in your throat, for example, for having the audactity to mock old, dead relationships that he was involved in.

It's dangerous to poke dogs known for a habit of viciousness. I can't keep the leash on him all the time.

So I suppose.. on the earlier subject of multiples hailing from fictitious origins... is this a common problem? People who just don't get it... or worse, who tend to forget?

Comments

[ex-mushroom784.livejournal.com]

an ex/still best bud used to confuse like that. until he really got to know my 'others'. now he knows better than to dare call any of them fake. especially one in particular... :/

[kasiawhisper.livejournal.com]

yeah, unfortunately.. it seems to be pretty common.. I had a "friend" who told me that after a couple years of us being friends and her saying she had believed me, to suddenly tell me that she thought I was just playing a game and thought I'd get over it and come back to reality.. people saying crap like that can be devastating to hear, especially when it's like she was just humouring us all that time or something..

I'm sorry to hear that's happening to you though.. that can suck.. :(

[sethrenn.livejournal.com]

If your friends can't get over the idea that you are "fictional characters" or "roleplaying," you should find better friends. We stopped hanging out with some people because they didn't seem to take us seriously, or thought it was a 'phase' or we were 'naming our different moods' or whatever.

[monozukineko.livejournal.com]

The strangest thing is that she's multiple, too. And on talking later, she revealed that she was really worried when things did start getting unsettling... So at least it's not as bad as it seemed at the time. Which is a relief-- but still doesn't excuse the behavior from someone who should know better.

[sethrenn.livejournal.com]

Did you know her for awhile before you revealed that you were multiple?

Sometimes people act suspicious or don't take you seriously if you say "hey, I'm multiple too" because they're paranoid that you might be me-tooing. And me-tooing definitely happens, but IMO, treating everyone as separate people will *help* you to find out if someone is faking-- if they're acting, they won't be able to take the strain of keeping it up constantly and it will fall apart after awhile.

[monozukineko.livejournal.com]

Actually, I revealed I was multiple and then she followed suit. I don't always believe her, but since she believes me, I generally take her at her word and we (all) get along well enough. We've been friends for ages, nearly 6 years now. Probably the longest I've ever kept a friend. oO;

Even if it's only a way of feeling like I'm less alien, she's multiple enough to me until she says otherwise. I won't naysay her since she hasn't once said she didn't believe me.

IME

[spookshow-girl.livejournal.com]

Every once in a while, there's a situation where yelling is called for. Not every day, or anything like that, of course, but putting people in a situation where they are unable to express anger, frustration, etc, can backfire.

If nothing else, it opens the door for mistreatment by people who wish to take advantage of that rule.

--Me

Re: IME

[sethrenn.livejournal.com]

What really irks me, is the assumption that when someone in a multiple group expresses anger or irritation or yelling, they're never just doing it for the same ordinary, mundane reasons that would also wear down a single person's patience and drive them to lash out. It's always assumed to be "the angry one" emerging, or someone who, for arcane reasons somehow related to being multiple, is going to be extremely violent.

Re: IME

[ksol1460.livejournal.com]

When this happens it's often the old "the first person I talked to (or on LJ, the first person who posted) must be the 'main person' in the group and the others are all the subsidiaries or adjuncts". Oh yeah. Right.

Re: IME

[ksol1460.livejournal.com]

Which is exactly why we put names on our icons. Same thing exactly as why you're signing.

Some browsers don't pick up on the mouseover, and even then, if they just see the initial, it doesn't hit home and they could think it was the name of the character in the picture. Having our names spelled out reminds people that this is no game. It's just that much more "in yer face" as our Faith would say.

[rant] People want to forget, they want to ignore, they want to pretend that it doesn't exist or like you said that it's just "wishful thinking" on your part. They may even get the idea that by addressing one person, they are gently steering you back toward (their) reality and away from (what they think is) your fantasy. You know, the crap like "it's all very well to play these little games, but you mustn't start thinking it's real..." [/rant]

[luwana.livejournal.com]

Thankfully most of the people close to us are very understanding. When people don't get it, we just avoid talking about it, or avoid Selene talking to them.

[monozukineko.livejournal.com]

I have one like that-- It's interesting how he's afraid to even exist here among my other tenents, for fear of rejection or that he might be thought of as the product of... well, you said it best. 'An obsessed fan.' He's one that lots of other people seem to have, too, which doesn't help him feel any better about it. He's got this whole "Why me?" thing going on. Because so many people already fan-gush over him.

I can't answer that question for him, though. Goodness knows I've tried. Why him-- why are any of my multiples who they are? I certainly didn't need or want another one, so why him? *shrug* It just happened that way.

So for now, he's still very shy and doesn't let me tell people he's there. But he's getting better. Sooner or later.

[monozukineko.livejournal.com]

I have to wonder on a small tangent if yours is 'the same' as ours. *chuckles a little and nods to your icon (which I have wanted to say I adore)* How you describe him sounds a lot like how mine is behaving-- and generally has always behaved, whether in his original incarnation or as a multiple.

[monozukineko.livejournal.com]

Done and done :} Feel free to add ours in return-- can never have too many friends. ^^

[nat-leia.livejournal.com]

Hey, we know that. We're used to not come up with those of us, or they rather react as more power-giving people when fronting for most of the time, they pose as normal singletons, you know. We/ The system- learned quickly how to adapt. In this crazy world where it's crazy to be multiple we pretend to be normal singleton with ability to radically shift POV and that just works fine *laughs*

Dana worry... people are allright unless you tell them. Tell some writers or painters or poets. Those folks are usually less challenging and less judgemental than others, particularly perhaps from the reason that the OTHERS had judged THEM so they know what it's like to be ostracized and not being taken seriously.

Aimee, the kidling

[lgrau.livejournal.com]

That does happen. Mostly because a strong form of communication within "the group" is visual art things (well, an odd way of saying things, but that's basically it?), and some of that gets posted to the internet, so obviously it must be one person and a bunch of characters...

(Noting that I can't fault people who we're not "out" to (a grand majority) for doing that; I'm referred to as a "character" in that vein because there's just not many common terms for people sharing your headspace in the circles we tend to hang around in, but it's still irritating.)

I just love the type of people who will go "you're not human, so obviously you're not as Real as someone who is, let me talk to the proper ones!" Silly. I don't come up for the express reason of not being too comfortable being thrown into something completely different-feeling physically, and it gets irritating getting told things like that when I do - but, that's a different tangent, which I'm not sure why I brought up.

Possibly a bit different from your situation, unless I'm reading things wrong, but thought I'd throw in another "me too" comment.

-E.

[lgrau.livejournal.com]

"which I'm not sure why I brought up"? Some nice grammar, there. Heh.