echoes

[pthalo]

Has anyone ever had a problem with someone saying things like "she said" or "she asked" after you say or ask things? It's getting kind of annoying. I don't know who it is and they won't stop. This has been going on for a decade or so, but they don't do it all the time. Once they start they don't stop for a while and I never notice them stopping, just notice when they start up again that they haven't for a while. I think if I were to shout "knock that off!" I'd just hear "she shouted" in return. Adult voice. No one I recognise.

I know it's a minor thing, but it's getting on my nerves.

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[ex-senza6.livejournal.com]

I actually used to do that when I was a kid - sort of mentally narrate my life as if it was a story. (Actually, when I was little I'd sometimes do it out loud without thinking, heh.) I think it probably came from reading a lot and just getting locked into a sort of narrative style of thinking.... In fact, if I think about it consciously now, it sometimes starts to happen again.

If it's nobody you recognise, perhaps it's just your brain playing a similar trick? Or perhaps someone else in your system is doing it "out loud" without thinking, as I used to? Interesting, anyway; I've never heard of anyone else who had that happen, I always thought it was just me being odd.

I'm afraid I have no tips for getting it to stop, except perhaps "try not to think about it", which I realise is easier said than done.

C.

[pthalo]

It's possible that it's my brain being weird and not someone else in my system. i really don't know. no one else in my system has complained that someone is doing this to them. I also used to narrate my life a little bit. As a teenager I'd avoid doing things because they would be "anti-climatic". When I saw the Truman Show as a teenager I was sure there were hidden cameras everywhere for a while. I've always called this voice "the narrator" because that's what they do: narrate.

It might just be me. I've been noticing the "not quite real" feeling a lot today, while I was out walking having a cigarette everything felt...staged. ficticious. story book like. The sounds of the outside, the sunlight. felt like i was watching it instead of a part of it. it might be related to that.

I had some orange juice earlier and made myself focus on the temperature and the taste and the liquidy feeling. it seemed a better grounding tool than cutting (which i haven't done in ages.) i'm just driving myself nuts right now, I guess.

[ricktboy.livejournal.com]

I've noticed that unreal feeling too...it's odd...

and you're right, the focusing was probably better than cutting...I'll mention it to faith...she's been forbidden by my parents to cut anymore, or they'll throw us out...so she's looking for things...

Rick
Pack Collective

[pthalo]

I'm the only one who cut in this system but I haven't done it very much for the last four years, 0-2 slip ups a year. Different reasons for doing it have different alternatives. Finding something to focus on is useful for the ungrounded, floating, "i can't seem to find the body even though I'm in it" feeling. The feeling creeps me the fuck out and cutting is a solution to it. So I try other ways of trying to remember where the body is. I won't say the orange juice made everything better, but it was something to do and something to focus on which prevented me from doing it in that moment and if you ride it out doing little things like that you can eventually get to a point where you don't need to.

But that's just for cutting to stop feeling spacey and dissociated. I noticed a long time ago that cutting stops flashbacks if I'm only halfway in the flashback and need something to pull me back. The problem is that it works so I get tempted to go back to it. With those, the main thing I've found is to just remind myself that if I don't face it now, it'll haunt me worse later. Things you're avoiding tend to do that. So with that in mind, I try not to stop it and then try to get it all out of my head later if I can.

I used to cut for self punishment a long time ago. If I made a mistake I'd need to be punished. I haven't had the urge to do that in a long time though, but I still can be a bit punishing verbally.

Writing helps. Going out rollerblading until I'm sore usually helps but isn't right now.

I wouldn't recommend channeling the cutting urges into an eating disorder. Tried that, in hopes that we wouldn't be hospitalised for the cutting. Was hospitalised for 6 months for an ed. Got the t-shirt.

Usually these urges to cut mean I'm not dealing with something. Wish I knew what I'm running from right now so I could deal with it and get it over with.

[ricktboy.livejournal.com]

well Faith cuts for a number of reasons, she could tell you more about them...not to worry, she's not ana or mia...she actually hates people like that...i mean, serious ED is once thing, but the ones who think it's cool bother and annoy her...

anyhow...

thanks for the info...

Rick
Pack Collective

[pthalo]

I was ed solely for the purpose of using it numb my emotions and have a way to escape my problems. I went into it knowing full well that that was what I was using it for, with enough hubris to think I could stop whenever I wanted. I couldn't. I didn't care what I looked like. I didn't feel that I was fat, though I did have an OCD obsession with watching the numbers drop. it replaced cutting for a bit but then i was doing both and it was kinda useless.

the wannabees who think it's cool annoy me too.

Pthalo

[appadil.livejournal.com]

::nods::

My own brain does that a lot even without sharing it with anyone else... I actually mentally narrate so much that it would be more odd to me if it stopped. The only difference is I get mine in first person rather than third. Because I do it so often, it's not really a nuisance to me except when it distracts me at crucial moments during a sport or video game or something requiring precision timing.

It's kind of weird- I "see" the world in words, but express myself by drawing, whereas my sister, who writes, imagines and remembers the world in pictures.

Anyway, I hope you figure out what it is that's been bothering you. ::hug::

[pthalo]

I'd like to narrate in 1st person. It seems more normal. When I was a kid, I took the narrating thing a bit far and would even use colour symbolism in my life. I could never just wear a blue shirt. It had to /mean/ something. And then I was surprised that no one picked up on it. In a novel, you pick up on those things. I just wasn't right in the head. :D

I tend to see the world in words or signs (ASL). and I'm a writer too. I think seeing things in pictures can be helpful as a writer though, there's more there to describe.

Pthalo

[sethrenn.livejournal.com]

Hee! You're the first other person we've known to have done that-- mental narration of life-as-story, that is. It does get kind of annoying sometimes when you fall into the habit of narrating everything in your head and you can't seem to shake it.

[echoesnspectres.livejournal.com]

Our sister used to do it as a child for a while - out loud, in public. It drove us nuts.

[random-element.livejournal.com]

lol, man, I actually had one do that for a little while after watching Family Guy one day. It was my Muse, and I think she found it funny. She'd never admit it, but she'd also only pinpoint one or a few with any of her annoying pranks...

[pilgrimchild.livejournal.com]

YES. and it can be SO aggravating. I think i know who does it too. She doesnt do it all the time. I think she does it just to be annoying. Then I yell at her to shut the hell up because I dont need a narrator!! :GRRRR

[pthalo]

It pisses me off. "I'm an *I* not a she" and "I know I said it because I was the one saying it shut up already"

Although I guess I'm only an I to me. To everyone else, I am a she. But still. Ow, brain hurts. *cranky*

[ksol1460.livejournal.com]

Around here, anyone who says that is being sarcastic, usually about the reliability of the cable company or a particular piece of machinery, but sometimes about politics.

Bush talking about sending troops into battle: "This will be a quick, decisive action and will not take longer than two weeks."
Jay: "He said."

[boi-grrl-wonder.livejournal.com]

you have a narrator in your head.

[pthalo]

yeah, that's what i call them. it sure gets annoying sometimes. but whatever. :)

Pthalo

[szczur-system.livejournal.com]

Well, a few of us have been known to do things like that after MMORPGing for a few days straight with no sleep... but that's about it. ;-)

[pthalo]

hee! I start saying "/me (action)s" after being on IRC too much. :D

[szczur-system.livejournal.com]

That too! And then our friends start questioning where we've been hanging out lately. =P

[pthalo]

Yeah. When you're saying "/me laughs" instead of laughing, you get odd looks. my exgirlfriend used to tease me for this. but she was an IRC nut too so it was okay.