Losing control

[familiasystem.livejournal.com]

The time has come, I think, to tell my wife that I'm multiple. And I have no idea how she's going to react. But Rana is fronting more and more (my wife just passes it off as me acting "extremely girly"), and now is hinting strongly that she wants MORE to change. She wants the body to be more female. I don't know if dressing is going to be enough or if she wants even more. And the scary thing is, I don't know if I can stop her anymore. She's getting stronger and stronger, and I'm starting to feel less in control. I think I need to discuss this with my wife NOW before something happens that really screws things up.

Any suggestions?

-Alixx

Comments

[annabellelaw.livejournal.com]

I don't know what to say. You need to sit down and have a chat wityh her I think. Get a mirror and talk (hey - works for me). I know I'd like my body to be female but it's male. I have to respect the fact that Ash likes being him. Chat to Rana and talk honestly about how changing your body will effect not just you but her too, her relationship with your wife. You may be suprised how supportive your wife may be both of dressing & of your multiplicity. Then again, maybe not. Either way it's a big step but if you trully love her she deserves to know. It may be a mistake but...

Look, there is no way of knowing how this will turn out. Assure your wife that you love her and just be truthfull.

[enigma-system.livejournal.com]

I have a similar problem at times... I have a guy in my system and my body presents as female. It's sad though that it's more socially acceptable for a woman to dress as a man than for a man to dress as a woman.

I think it'd be a good idea to tell your wife. I think she will probably understand, especially if she's an open minded person. Then you can talk to Rana about what would be okay to do and what wouldn't.

Good luck and tell us how it goes.

[ksol1460.livejournal.com]

We always think the best idea is to be honest. She's your wife, she deserves to know you're plural. She could get to know Rana and talk things over with her.
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[changelyng14.livejournal.com]

good luck to you :(
it sounds like a reasonable plan.

Tia