How to avoid annoying mods in 3 easy steps.

[sethrenn.livejournal.com]

I figured it wouldn't hurt to do a rundown of things that would really, really make life easier for the mods (and for others on the community as well). This is not to be taken as a condemnation of any particular member or their actions; they are trends I've noticed which can get annoying not only for mods but for long-term general readers as well, and take up their time unnecessarily.

-Read the user info page before you join. I have lost count of the number of times newbies have made a first post to the group asking a question which is answered on the user info page. I am not really sure how so many people join the group without having read it, but it seems that a surprising number of people either miss it or skim it. It's long, but it's long for a reason. Have a look at it if you haven't.

-If you have a question, check the memories section to see if it or anything like it has been asked before. The memories section has been compiled very exhaustively and comprises four years' worth of posts, organised by topic. So, for instance, if you have a question along the lines of "help, this person in my group doesn't like me, what do I do," you can look under "cooperation," or you can look under "system management" or "responsibility" or various other things. It usually takes less time than waiting for other people to respond to your post, believe it or not.

The problem is, for people who read/maintain the group on a long-term basis, it can get annoying having to respond to the same questions/topics over and over, often ending with "has this happened to anyone else?", when the question has already been asked four or five or six times in the archives. There is some good advice in the archives. There is also some useless advice, bickering, etc., but if you've read them and still aren't sure what to do, or whether a particular bit of advice should be taken seriously or not, then you should make a post.

-In the same vein, please try to cut down on "has this happened to anyone else" posts. It doesn't mean you can't make them ever, but it can get somewhat wearisome when discussion gets to consist of nothing but repeated posts of this nature, especially when someone starts posting it repeatedly about relatively normal occurrences. The only thing I can honestly answer to such a post is either 'yes' or 'no.' It seems that the only thing many people are seeking is validation-- i.e. they worry that they're crazy or 'not real' if nobody else on the group says it's happened to them.

Even if no one else on the group has shared your experience (and remember, LJ is not a microcosm of the real world; it's a subgroup of a subgroup), that does not mean it is not valid, real, or normal for your operating system. We haven't met anyone else who shares some of our exact experiences. Very few multiples, or people in general, will ever find that every single one of their experiences is common to others around them.

This will help out not only mods, but a lot of people who read and comment upon your posts, as well. Thanks.

-S.

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[militesdekulta.livejournal.com]

Hello my name is Lunette Lewelliraf Griffonwing. I am a 24-year-old woman in a 16-year-old body (same one as Duffy who posted here yesterday). I am the hostess as the old one stepped down. She became an alter... I have a husband and a son as well. My son, Yoshihiro, is inside with me. But my husband, Kulta Griffonwing, is the alter of a 17-year-old boy named Michael who our whole system has befriended. We have many issues with relationships for this and other reasons. Spirius is in love with a girl in our high school, Caitie, but she is straight and not at all sure she can deal with a technically non-monogamous relationship that may not last even if Spirius would like it to. I want to be with Kulta, as in completely and in every way, but I cannot due to the fact that Michael is the main front and the old front for this system, Ca, is very mucha lesbian and thus the world knows us as such. We have been more and more forthcoming with the fact that we are many, but have run into several brick walls.
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I was even called a "weird kid" by the 8-year-old that lives here. Upon demanding that I was not a child he amended his statement to "ok weird teenager then". *SIGH*

Success story (for young'uns and old)

[vinik.livejournal.com]

This point just dawned on me so I thought I'd post it here and see what happens. We're so busy with baby that I don't know how quickly we'd be able to answer questions directed at us, but it's not a retaliation to elenbarathi's post. It just reminded us of something we'd thought of writing about on here before.

Okay, there are a lot of young people in this community (teens and early 20's). It has been discussed before, usually in a negative light. However, I'd like to point out something we have personally experienced.

When we first found out about Natural Multiplicity we were only 20 years old. When we came out to our therapists as Multiple, we were 15 years old. If online access were so readily available back then, I'm more than sure we would have been on the web frantically looking for others like us.

We were really fucked up back then, very dramatic, but thanks to websites like the ones listed on the user info page here, and talking to other plurals, we wound up on the right track.

So if you're skeptical that these younguns showing up here, thinking that they might be trouble, just remember that some of us (maybe even you) started out the same way.

Peace, loves!

-Benjamin (because when I'm intellectual I use my full name. 'dons Hugh Hefner-like outfit and pipe' Yes, look at the sexiness of me and drool copiously. 'wink')

(Jen: oh dear god 'facepalm')

Hello

[rhymer-713.livejournal.com]

Hi all. I am Jess, gatekeeper for this system and I wanted to say hi. We haven't posted here in a month or so so I just figured I'd say hi. Happy Holidays
Rhymer/Jess