I don't think you'll find a lot of positives because there's not much that is postive about integration. It would be like trying to find something positive about committing suicide/murder - and that's how We view integration.
Also it seems that integration is never a solution. A lot of cases I have heard about always wound up splitting apart again, then reintegrating, then just still splitting apart.
Just because you have an abusive history doesn't mean integration is your only hope. We originally split from trauma-origins and many of Us have severe PTSD as well. However, We are still very anti-integration - We need each other to survive, We're like a big family now. Like I said, integration would be like killing each other. It's taken a lot of work over the years, but We're now very functional and highly co-conscious. Our problems are not from being multiple.
Maybe you need to find a therapist who would help you learn to function as a group better instead of forcing integration. And maybe a boyfriend who actually cares and is there to support you, not push you into things you're not sure you want while ignoring you.
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Date: 2005-03-15 02:40 am (UTC)Also it seems that integration is never a solution. A lot of cases I have heard about always wound up splitting apart again, then reintegrating, then just still splitting apart.
Just because you have an abusive history doesn't mean integration is your only hope. We originally split from trauma-origins and many of Us have severe PTSD as well. However, We are still very anti-integration - We need each other to survive, We're like a big family now. Like I said, integration would be like killing each other. It's taken a lot of work over the years, but We're now very functional and highly co-conscious. Our problems are not from being multiple.
Maybe you need to find a therapist who would help you learn to function as a group better instead of forcing integration. And maybe a boyfriend who actually cares and is there to support you, not push you into things you're not sure you want while ignoring you.
~BrokenWings