I think you'll find that a lot of the members of this community don't consider themself DID though. We've been diagnosed as DID but have come to resent the term because of the connotations behind it - the diagnosis of DID is more that there is a central person imagining other personalities, but that those "personalities" aren't actually real. We don't view Ourselves as disordered either, instead We are a group of people doing Our best to function together and share one body (which can sometimes be frustrating!) - not just figments of a "core" person's imagination. We don't have a core/original, or even a host these days.
It's great that your therapist is understanding and not the kind of "DID specialists" that pushes for integration, but instead helps you manage cooperation and being a functional multiple household.
You're also very lucky that your husband is so accepting. Our significant other is also multiple, and we joke that our relationship is always exciting because it's like having a new girlfriend every day. ;) In reality though, each of Us is matched up with individuals in their system (although some are still single and looking for matches) instead of sharing. And the kids in Our system look up to the adults in their system like big sisters or even motherly figures. Same with the kids in their system with Our adults.
Good luck with your book. I'd love to read it at some point. We were also in several abusive relationships, most recently a very badly abusive one that took Us several years to find the courage to get out of. We're very glad that We did, and were able to meet Our wonderful current SO(s).
Out of curiousity (hope you don't mind me asking), do your children know you're multiple? If so, do they understand/handle it well? Is it hard for some of the others in your system? We used to have a daughter (she passed away from SIDS last August), and we were trying to decide how and when to explain to her about her mommies' multiplicity. It was also hard for many of the younger members of Our system to deal with (especially the kids who had big-sister syndrome I guess you could say and got jealous of the baby and all the attention both systems' adults gave to her) or just those who didn't really see Our daughter as their daughter.
Anyway, I tend to ramble, but just wanted to welcome you all to the community. :)
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Date: 2005-03-10 08:16 pm (UTC)I think you'll find that a lot of the members of this community don't consider themself DID though. We've been diagnosed as DID but have come to resent the term because of the connotations behind it - the diagnosis of DID is more that there is a central person imagining other personalities, but that those "personalities" aren't actually real. We don't view Ourselves as disordered either, instead We are a group of people doing Our best to function together and share one body (which can sometimes be frustrating!) - not just figments of a "core" person's imagination. We don't have a core/original, or even a host these days.
It's great that your therapist is understanding and not the kind of "DID specialists" that pushes for integration, but instead helps you manage cooperation and being a functional multiple household.
You're also very lucky that your husband is so accepting. Our significant other is also multiple, and we joke that our relationship is always exciting because it's like having a new girlfriend every day. ;) In reality though, each of Us is matched up with individuals in their system (although some are still single and looking for matches) instead of sharing. And the kids in Our system look up to the adults in their system like big sisters or even motherly figures. Same with the kids in their system with Our adults.
Good luck with your book. I'd love to read it at some point. We were also in several abusive relationships, most recently a very badly abusive one that took Us several years to find the courage to get out of. We're very glad that We did, and were able to meet Our wonderful current SO(s).
Out of curiousity (hope you don't mind me asking), do your children know you're multiple? If so, do they understand/handle it well? Is it hard for some of the others in your system?
We used to have a daughter (she passed away from SIDS last August), and we were trying to decide how and when to explain to her about her mommies' multiplicity. It was also hard for many of the younger members of Our system to deal with (especially the kids who had big-sister syndrome I guess you could say and got jealous of the baby and all the attention both systems' adults gave to her) or just those who didn't really see Our daughter as their daughter.
Anyway, I tend to ramble, but just wanted to welcome you all to the community. :)
~Rhydan