However, to be fair, there are aspects to my own personality that I work to at least minimize, if not leave behind. I do tend to find that I have to embrace it first. I can be mean to people, for example, and I would rather not be, but first I have to appreciate how it's worked for me and how I am good at it and things before moving on. Still, I don't want that particular kneejerk response to people to remain at the front of my tool kit.
Sure. Many of us are like that also, about various things. However, I think that saying "I want to get rid of Susie because she scares me" while at the same time saying "Susie is just an aspect of me, we have a single self with many aspects" is kind of wanting to have your cake and eat it too. I've seen some seriously silly things said by people-- silly if you think of them in the context the person demanded be originally given, which is of everyone being parts of a whole. You know that if you hold to that, you're saying you are all these things you attributed to this other person, right? (Is what I want to say, but it seems to slide right off people.)
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Date: 2006-10-20 06:52 pm (UTC)However, to be fair, there are aspects to my own personality that I work to at least minimize, if not leave behind. I do tend to find that I have to embrace it first. I can be mean to people, for example, and I would rather not be, but first I have to appreciate how it's worked for me and how I am good at it and things before moving on. Still, I don't want that particular kneejerk response to people to remain at the front of my tool kit.
Sure. Many of us are like that also, about various things. However, I think that saying "I want to get rid of Susie because she scares me" while at the same time saying "Susie is just an aspect of me, we have a single self with many aspects" is kind of wanting to have your cake and eat it too. I've seen some seriously silly things said by people-- silly if you think of them in the context the person demanded be originally given, which is of everyone being parts of a whole. You know that if you hold to that, you're saying you are all these things you attributed to this other person, right? (Is what I want to say, but it seems to slide right off people.)