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The reason we're unsure of our case manager is because of one time when our therapist asked us why we were so determined to hold onto the did label. We tried to answer her, basically we told her it was because we had finally found something that fit us, we knew we were here, there were many of us, etc. that is did by definition. Anyway, a couple of days later our case manager asked us the same question in the exact same words our therapist used. Given the fact that we know they have permission to talk to each other, and that they work for the same organization, we figure they communicate with each other on a regular basis. I believe they have paperwork that says they can. I don't remember if they do or not. The thing is, we trust our case manager and she sees a larger number of us than our therapist does, even though our therapist sees us once a week and the case manager only sees us about once a month. Or maybe it's twice, I don't know. At this point we don't want our therapist to know we're wanting to change therapists. We'll either work past the fear of it, or we won't ... If we don't, we'll be stuck with her ...
We have New Hampshire Medicaid, and also State Aid to the Permanently Disabled, which is cash assistance of about $600 a month. It might be a little more. Anyway, our award letter for our medicaid stated that to continue receiving it we had to have ongoing treatment at the place where we're receiving therapy.
*Thinking* ... You know, I believe it would not hurt, the next time we talk to our case manager, to ask her if there is another therapist there who works with DID patients. The case manager knows we're not sure that our therapist is a good fit with us.
The thing is, I think there is another therapist who works with DID, but he/she is not also a DBT therapist. I signed a contract that I'd stay in DBT for a year. I suppose I could break the contract, but I'd really rather not. I haven't been in DBT long. According to our therapist, we have borderline personality disorder. But anyway, we've heard that DBT doesn't really work for DID. We're not sure yet if it is helping us any. We know we like DBT group better than therapy sessions, even though our therapist is one of the group leaders.
We've jokingly said that she seems like another person entirely during group, and we wonder if she's really multiple herself ... she seems so much nicer during group. She's more serious and intense in one-on-one sessions.
But seriously, is it better to have not quite the right kind of therapy, with not quite the right therapist, or better to have no therapy at all? How do you tell when a therapy or a therapist is doing more harm than good? How long does it take to know if you mesh well, if the therapist is right for you? It's been since late November for us. We still feel really unsure that our therapist is right for us.
Distraida
The reason we're unsure of our case manager is because of one time when our therapist asked us why we were so determined to hold onto the did label. We tried to answer her, basically we told her it was because we had finally found something that fit us, we knew we were here, there were many of us, etc. that is did by definition. Anyway, a couple of days later our case manager asked us the same question in the exact same words our therapist used. Given the fact that we know they have permission to talk to each other, and that they work for the same organization, we figure they communicate with each other on a regular basis. I believe they have paperwork that says they can. I don't remember if they do or not. The thing is, we trust our case manager and she sees a larger number of us than our therapist does, even though our therapist sees us once a week and the case manager only sees us about once a month. Or maybe it's twice, I don't know. At this point we don't want our therapist to know we're wanting to change therapists. We'll either work past the fear of it, or we won't ... If we don't, we'll be stuck with her ...
We have New Hampshire Medicaid, and also State Aid to the Permanently Disabled, which is cash assistance of about $600 a month. It might be a little more. Anyway, our award letter for our medicaid stated that to continue receiving it we had to have ongoing treatment at the place where we're receiving therapy.
*Thinking* ... You know, I believe it would not hurt, the next time we talk to our case manager, to ask her if there is another therapist there who works with DID patients. The case manager knows we're not sure that our therapist is a good fit with us.
The thing is, I think there is another therapist who works with DID, but he/she is not also a DBT therapist. I signed a contract that I'd stay in DBT for a year. I suppose I could break the contract, but I'd really rather not. I haven't been in DBT long. According to our therapist, we have borderline personality disorder. But anyway, we've heard that DBT doesn't really work for DID. We're not sure yet if it is helping us any. We know we like DBT group better than therapy sessions, even though our therapist is one of the group leaders.
We've jokingly said that she seems like another person entirely during group, and we wonder if she's really multiple herself ... she seems so much nicer during group. She's more serious and intense in one-on-one sessions.
But seriously, is it better to have not quite the right kind of therapy, with not quite the right therapist, or better to have no therapy at all? How do you tell when a therapy or a therapist is doing more harm than good? How long does it take to know if you mesh well, if the therapist is right for you? It's been since late November for us. We still feel really unsure that our therapist is right for us.
Distraida
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