Ummm... none of us are "alters", but yeah, it gets a little lonely and awkward at times. Kír's head-over-heels in love, but due to complicated gender-issues, he and his loved one don't intend to do anything sexual about it. His loved one is my dear friend, totally platonic, but.... this body is healthy and not yet old, so sleeping next to someone so nice sometimes causes desire to stir.
I'm not in a relationship, but I do have a friend who occasionally comes to stay for a night or two - usually chastely, but not always - and then that's lonely and awkward for Kír, who does his best to be oblivious to the whole thing.
Crist-Erui's delighted to have either of these dear people to snuggle with in bed, and doesn't seem to have either much craving for sex nor any objection to it, so apparently he's not having any problem with it. And since both of them know all of us, and are also friends with each other, it's not nearly as awkward as it might otherwise be. It still is somewhat, though - mostly for Kír, who is so *not* a naturally-polyamorous person - but we manage.
I'm not quite getting what you mean when you say "the body has a significant other" - do you mean you all (or some of you) share one SO, or do you mean that one of you claims both the body and the SO while the rest of you are considered subordinate "personalities"? The first option can work, if you all like him and get along with each other well enough to be content with the arrangement. The second, I dunno; sounds like an arrangement that would be likely to engender some pretty major resentment.
Basically you've got a choice between corporeal monogamy with either internal polyamory (all of you sharing one lover) or monogamy for one and celibacy for the rest... or corporeal polyamory that would allow internal monogamy (each of you having his or her own lover.) I realize that may not be a whole lot of help if some of your House want one arrangement and some want another. Anyway, good luck to all of you!
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Date: 2005-01-06 08:20 am (UTC)I'm not in a relationship, but I do have a friend who occasionally comes to stay for a night or two - usually chastely, but not always - and then that's lonely and awkward for Kír, who does his best to be oblivious to the whole thing.
Crist-Erui's delighted to have either of these dear people to snuggle with in bed, and doesn't seem to have either much craving for sex nor any objection to it, so apparently he's not having any problem with it. And since both of them know all of us, and are also friends with each other, it's not nearly as awkward as it might otherwise be. It still is somewhat, though - mostly for Kír, who is so *not* a naturally-polyamorous person - but we manage.
I'm not quite getting what you mean when you say "the body has a significant other" - do you mean you all (or some of you) share one SO, or do you mean that one of you claims both the body and the SO while the rest of you are considered subordinate "personalities"? The first option can work, if you all like him and get along with each other well enough to be content with the arrangement. The second, I dunno; sounds like an arrangement that would be likely to engender some pretty major resentment.
Basically you've got a choice between corporeal monogamy with either internal polyamory (all of you sharing one lover) or monogamy for one and celibacy for the rest... or corporeal polyamory that would allow internal monogamy (each of you having his or her own lover.) I realize that may not be a whole lot of help if some of your House want one arrangement and some want another. Anyway, good luck to all of you!