"A word of advice: if you are realy MPD, then have a "spokespersonality" and have them deal with the real world."
What you're saying here is that people who are really multiple (whether "MPD" or not) should play-act a false single self - like gay people staying 'in the closet', pretending to be something they're not, so as to avoid offending someone else's idea of what's accepatable or "real".
Suppose you told a family of people you considered to be your friends that dealing with all of them was too confusing, and that you'd really prefer they choose just one person to speak for all of them? Suppose you were a member of a family who was told that; how do you think you'd feel?
The fact that your little social group doesn't know jack-shit about multiplicity besides what you've seen and read in the sensationalist schlock media is understandable, because you've probably never had any reason to learn about it before now. So fine - learn something (http://www.karitas.net/blackbirds/layman/whatis.html) - ignorance is curable. Unfortunately, bigotry usually isn't.
In case you're wondering, I'm the "spokesperson" for my House most of the time only because my Kin don't usually choose to deal with other people. They've got some friends, but they're nowhere near as social as me, so usually prefer to "front" when they can pursue their own (solitary) interests. I'm not the "main one"; I'm just the talky one, and my opinions are only my own.
If someone, or a group of people, considered me crazy or a liar because they learned I share this body with others, I would sure as hell NOT consider them my friends. Not that people have to be friends with all of us - in physical families, being friends with one sibling doesn't mean you're friends with all. But dissing your friend's family is very likely to wreck your friendship, and that's even more true with "families" that share a single body.
I'm more and more starting to think that the real mistake chrisau8r made was in not realizing that just because she hangs out with a group of people (in realtime or online) who share some of her interests, that this means they're friends who care about her and can be trusted with personal information. With luck, she won't make THAT mistake again.
Probably quite a few people in your group have revealed stuff that could be used to hurt them, and now, seeing what's happened to chrisau8r, are uncomfortably wondering whether the same sort of thing's going to happen to them - so, this whole incident can serve as a little lesson for all of you.
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Re: *glee*
Date: 2004-10-23 03:42 pm (UTC)What you're saying here is that people who are really multiple (whether "MPD" or not) should play-act a false single self - like gay people staying 'in the closet', pretending to be something they're not, so as to avoid offending someone else's idea of what's accepatable or "real".
Suppose you told a family of people you considered to be your friends that dealing with all of them was too confusing, and that you'd really prefer they choose just one person to speak for all of them? Suppose you were a member of a family who was told that; how do you think you'd feel?
The fact that your little social group doesn't know jack-shit about multiplicity besides what you've seen and read in the sensationalist schlock media is understandable, because you've probably never had any reason to learn about it before now. So fine - learn something (http://www.karitas.net/blackbirds/layman/whatis.html) - ignorance is curable. Unfortunately, bigotry usually isn't.
In case you're wondering, I'm the "spokesperson" for my House most of the time only because my Kin don't usually choose to deal with other people. They've got some friends, but they're nowhere near as social as me, so usually prefer to "front" when they can pursue their own (solitary) interests. I'm not the "main one"; I'm just the talky one, and my opinions are only my own.
If someone, or a group of people, considered me crazy or a liar because they learned I share this body with others, I would sure as hell NOT consider them my friends. Not that people have to be friends with all of us - in physical families, being friends with one sibling doesn't mean you're friends with all. But dissing your friend's family is very likely to wreck your friendship, and that's even more true with "families" that share a single body.
I'm more and more starting to think that the real mistake
Probably quite a few people in your group have revealed stuff that could be used to hurt them, and now, seeing what's happened to