I didn't say 'just get over it'. Twisting my words lends you no credability.
You may not have noticed but in this 'discussion' I continually stated that it would more than likely be better for a system if everybody in it was happy. You seem to find that in some way insulting. That I feel system members should all be able to get on with their lives without a burden of pain.
I also continually said that how a system works to cope with their pain is not an issue as long as they don't wallow in it, as long as they try to heal. Where is the point in wallowing in it. It only serves to hurt the members of your system.
Whoever has to deal with the pain so that you don't have to... This makes me wonder who is really the cruel one out of the two of us. Me for being judgemental of people like you, or people like you for suggesting alters should be used like tools no matter how it hurts them.
I didn't realise that people would react so violently to the concept of actually healing ALL members of the system, or at the very least trying to. I thought that concept might have been embraced in a community where all alters are considered equals. I suppose I was wrong.
Please pass my condolences on to whatever system members are suffering in your head. I know how they feel.
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Re: I dissagree with you.
Date: 2004-10-19 04:45 pm (UTC)You may not have noticed but in this 'discussion' I continually stated that it would more than likely be better for a system if everybody in it was happy. You seem to find that in some way insulting. That I feel system members should all be able to get on with their lives without a burden of pain.
I also continually said that how a system works to cope with their pain is not an issue as long as they don't wallow in it, as long as they try to heal. Where is the point in wallowing in it. It only serves to hurt the members of your system.
Whoever has to deal with the pain so that you don't have to... This makes me wonder who is really the cruel one out of the two of us. Me for being judgemental of people like you, or people like you for suggesting alters should be used like tools no matter how it hurts them.
I didn't realise that people would react so violently to the concept of actually healing ALL members of the system, or at the very least trying to. I thought that concept might have been embraced in a community where all alters are considered equals. I suppose I was wrong.
Please pass my condolences on to whatever system members are suffering in your head. I know how they feel.