Intro

[weare.livejournal.com]

*sorry about the cross post...I joined three communities at the same time :)*

Hello, my name is Jessica though most of my friends call me Jessie. I found out I was multiple about a year ago...though it turns out that some friends and family (the few I have felt comfortable enough to speak to about it) have known for years! They never said anything because they thought I knew. *sigh*

Anyways, a lot has changed in the past year. And, after much debate (with my others and my husband and myself) I realize that it's time I stopped being afraid of my others and embrace them. No, I don't mean integration (I don't feel that would be best for us...neither do they) but rather becoming a healthy system. Basically, the thought is that if I allow my others to come out and do things that They like then maybe I won't lose time so much and my life will become a little more stable.

Well, to keep a long story from taking up too much space on your friends pages....

I found this group and two others and decided that if I'm truly going to help myself and my others than talking with and reading about people who understand would be helpful to me. I started this particular journal (weare) as a form of self-therapy and sometimes my others will come out and say some things. They're usually good about signing their name though sometimes they forget (and so do I).

Ok...I should go now. I've rambled on enough. hehe Thanks for listening. :)

Comments

[joshsweetie.livejournal.com]

Hi Jessie

I am Josh and part of a system. I think what you are doing with the other people with you is just great. It is true since we have had more time to do things everyone here is so much better. Emotionally it was a rollercoaster with everyone wanting time and not getting it. I am glad you have family that is supportive of you. Some here have been on a group called VASES for more than a year now and have made allot of friends. There's a place for everyone to write check it out if you like but it can get busy tho.

Josh

[ksol1460.livejournal.com]

I realize that it's time I stopped being afraid of my others and embrace them. No, I don't mean integration (I don't feel that would be best for us...neither do they) but rather becoming a healthy system. Basically, the thought is that if I allow my others to come out and do things that They like then maybe I won't lose time so much and my life will become a little more stable.

Hey, that's our story, almost exactly, except we weren't losing time. We were just plain miserable and exhausted and using up too much energy maintaining the illusion of a single person. Congratulations and good luck, and welcome to all of you!

Welcome!

[gia1977.livejournal.com]

Welcome! I look forward to getting to know you and your inner crew. Since I embraced my inner crew, things have been a lot better for me. I still have issues, but then again, who doesn't. LOL! Again, welcome.

[iamshadow.livejournal.com]

Hey Jessie,

We're kinda new to our multiplicity too.
Ruth is the main front most of the time here, but five fronts sometimes too, and Anachronis (or Ana for short) sometimes comes out when we're online and zhe has something to say. There are others here too, but they don't tend to come up front much, or they aren't interested in doing so.

Welcome.

Ruth & co.

[pengke.livejournal.com]

We wanted to address this comment: My biggest worry is finding out why they're here. ie. unearthing memories that have been hidden away.

You may be worrying for nothing. Not all multiples became plural due to trauma or abuse.

You've been in therapy before. You've probably spoken about your life. Was there ever anything uncovered to remotely suggest that something bad might have happened to you that you don't remember? Was there ever any reason for you to wonder about these things before you found out you were multiple? If there isn't, then don't worry about the people telling you that you're going to be uncovering all of these memories. Multiplicity is quite a bit more complex than just the psychological splitting by abuse model.

If you have reason to believe the other people might know something you don't know, ask them. If being multiple is your only reason, then you're probably making things harder for yourselves over nothing.

[myorp.livejournal.com]

hi! welcome! i'm my of the puzzles and clocks system. glad to meet you. we've been getting the hang of being multiple for a while but its still confusing sometimes. i think everyone probably progresses through their understanding of that just like any other aspect of themselves.

i think there's always room for anyone to grow so don't feel like you don't have something worthwhile to add if you have a personal insight of some sort.

just because you're new to all of this doesn't mean what you have to say is any less valid. it may be something others already know but everyone must grow and such at their own rate. so don't feel intimidated if alot of people here seem to be alot more knowlegable or experienced.