Ever wish you could freeze a moment and then smash it out of existance?

[darkladyshadow.livejournal.com]

I just came out publicly in my journal. And I am scared shitless.

I am the least qualified to have done this, but I am the most confused by everything. I lose years of my life and need to be brought up to speed (after an adequate freaking out phase) everytime I come forward.

My memories stop at age 16... this body is now 24, almost 25.

The husband made the joke "Could be worse, you could be like 10 second Tom" I had no idea what he was talking about, so he sat down and watched 50 first dates... he had rented it as a joke with S.R., and they had a laugh over it. But all it did was make me cry... because that pretty much is how life is for me.

I'm sure you've seen this journal name in here before, apparently I've been a member before.

Anyway, my point was, it is now public knowledge...

What were your experiences "coming out" like?

Comments

[qilora.livejournal.com]

"The husband made the joke "Could be worse, you could be like 10 second Tom"

man, that is a pretty fucked up thing to say... really, i think that a lot of folks just don't even think before talking... just make a joke (about things that should *not* be poked fun at) and then roll their eyes if we dare to be hurt by their remarks...

as for our coming-out experiences, i really hate to say it but there is no way to predict how a singlet will take it...

all you can do is just remember that you are not obligated to reveal anything to anyone...

when you *do* tell other people your information, only do it when you want to and when you feel safe to do so...

hugs
Juju & Co.

[whispersong.livejournal.com]

i see why you think that was insensitive. keep in mind diff ppl deal with things in diff ways. some cry, some laugh or make jokes & others idappear when they encounter info they find threatening or scary.

its possible he said that as a joke to cover discomfort.

give him the benefit of the doubt.

tatiana

[pengke.livejournal.com]

They never give singles the benefit of the doubt.

[whispersong.livejournal.com]

I do. I'm part of a multiple system. Lots of multiples have too many bad experiences w/singlets to do so though. I know one of My House mates, El, dislikes singlets far more than anyone else here. She rarely gives singlets a chance and I do not blame Her considering how shes been treated in the past.

Shrugs, btw you're doing as she did: generalizing. Goes both ways.

Tatiana