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multiplicity_archives2004-04-01 11:28 pm
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I'm holding all my blood inside this skin
Greetings to all!
I have a question.
Seems that almost every multiple I know has at one time or another dealt with a self-destructive system member that cuts, or engages in activities that are similarly dangerous to the body. The multiples I know have all been involved in trauma's of some sort (the most interesting one had for a father one of Fidel Castro's ex-bodyguards - serious freakiness there, but I digress).
Since interacting with this community, I have been introduced to the phenomenon of natural multiples, which makes sense to me and, I think, addresses some of the unanswered questions about why many horribly abused kids don't develop DID but use other coping mechanisms. I don't really want this to turn into a big discussion about the natural vs. trauma thing, but I am curious...
How many systems here deal or have dealt with self-destructive members and do you think is this an experience more closely linked with trauma-involved multiples or is it a trait shared equally across the full spectrum of all multiples? +edit: Or, do you think self-harm and multiplicity have no intrinsic connection, given the number of singlets who also engage in self-harming activities.
All comments and experiences would be greatly appreciated.
Sending good vibes to all!
Jess
I have a question.
Seems that almost every multiple I know has at one time or another dealt with a self-destructive system member that cuts, or engages in activities that are similarly dangerous to the body. The multiples I know have all been involved in trauma's of some sort (the most interesting one had for a father one of Fidel Castro's ex-bodyguards - serious freakiness there, but I digress).
Since interacting with this community, I have been introduced to the phenomenon of natural multiples, which makes sense to me and, I think, addresses some of the unanswered questions about why many horribly abused kids don't develop DID but use other coping mechanisms. I don't really want this to turn into a big discussion about the natural vs. trauma thing, but I am curious...
How many systems here deal or have dealt with self-destructive members and do you think is this an experience more closely linked with trauma-involved multiples or is it a trait shared equally across the full spectrum of all multiples? +edit: Or, do you think self-harm and multiplicity have no intrinsic connection, given the number of singlets who also engage in self-harming activities.
All comments and experiences would be greatly appreciated.
Sending good vibes to all!
Jess
Re: Must be said
(As opposed to my SO's system that up until a few years ago couldn't agree on one thing at all. THough they are better about it now, I'd still consider them 'disordered' because they haven't quite gotten to a level of communication that affords them any real cognitive continuity. They need to learn how to cooperate better for the good of the system or even their individual sanities.)
I think that with natural and trauma based multiples, there is too much emphasis from outsiders on 'trying to integrate into one'. Sometimes I just have to ask "Why??". A system has survived, and not just survived but actually lived for quite sometime. Where is the need to revamp them to fit better into someone else's idea of 'whole'? Kind of an "if it ain't broke don't fix it kind of attitude".