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[riseva.livejournal.com]

Okay, so, I have a multiple, or little, as I've heard some people refer to them, named Tony. Tony is 10 years old, but he doesn't seem to be able to grow up. I sometimes have flings with women, which disturbs Tony as he is quite homophobic, but I get the feeling that Tony is secretly gay, and that is the source of his homophobia, and I'd like to help him come to terms with it, and, in the process, help him to grow up. Basically, what I'm asking, is how to get Tony laid? He might not be thrilled with it at first, unfortunately. I know a male who would be interested in helping Tony, but I don't know how to go about this. Any thoughts?

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[crystalseraph.livejournal.com]

Well, I'd say it's a far more complicated process than 'getting him laid'. You need to talk to him, work this out as an adult to a child before even considering matching him up with a partner.

This means dealing with him in a responsible, non-sexual manner, and waiting until he grows up. He might just possibly be disturbed because children generally are, when they watch adults having sex.

Also, you do come across as a troll, sorry to say...

[riseva.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry. I didn't realize I'd come across offensively. "Getting him laid" might have been a crude way to put it. I want him to be able to have an emotional relationship as well as a physical one. The reason for feeling that this is an issue he has is because he's been 10 for a long time. I feel like he's just unwilling to move on, not unready.

[ridetothesea.livejournal.com]

I feel like he's just unwilling to move on, not unready.

Doesn't it kind of equate to the same thing? If he's unwilling to move on, he's not ready to move on, and you shouldn't be pressuring him to. You have to respect his decision to stay at the level he wants to stay at.

Hmm.

[rhymer-713.livejournal.com]

But there's one thing you're forgetting. Some children in multiple groups don't ever grow up. They'll grow when/if they get ready. And if Tony doesn't want a relationship of ANY kind then making him have one would be just wrong in every since of the word. Because he has every right to have his own wants and needs and they have a right to be opposite from yours. And 10-year-olds having sex (if they don't want to have sex) just seems wrong to me. Even if he's been ten for your entire lifetime. Tony is, after all, his own person. Have you ever asked him what HE wants to do. You can't force anything on him he doesn't want.
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Re: Hmm.

[rhymer-713.livejournal.com]

Oh thank you LiSa. I love the way you spell your name with the capitol S. The icon came from a friend and started out as a picture till we begged her to see if she could make an icon out of it. :-D