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Okay, so, I have a multiple, or little, as I've heard some people refer to them, named Tony. Tony is 10 years old, but he doesn't seem to be able to grow up. I sometimes have flings with women, which disturbs Tony as he is quite homophobic, but I get the feeling that Tony is secretly gay, and that is the source of his homophobia, and I'd like to help him come to terms with it, and, in the process, help him to grow up. Basically, what I'm asking, is how to get Tony laid? He might not be thrilled with it at first, unfortunately. I know a male who would be interested in helping Tony, but I don't know how to go about this. Any thoughts?
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This means dealing with him in a responsible, non-sexual manner, and waiting until he grows up. He might just possibly be disturbed because children generally are, when they watch adults having sex.
Also, you do come across as a troll, sorry to say...
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Hmm.
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Sex does not equal maturity.
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i think this guy who wants to "help" tony is a pervert. i don't think much better of you either.
ya....
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Like everyone else, I say that just because he's been that way for a long time doesn't mean he has to grow up. Some of us don't change age and if that means he won't be older than 10, then it's his choice. Just forcing him to "grow up" would damage him even more.
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Reberto's family.
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(I couldn't agree more.)
-K
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It's NEVER EVER EVER ok to try and "help" someone to grow up by forcing them to do ANYTHING that they are truly against.
Besides that, how the hell would you know whether he was really gay and just pretending to be a homophobe or really gay OR REALLY HOMOPHOBIC.
Let the damn kid just BE. Sometimes people don't grow up "emotionally" because they CAN'T and it doesn't matter why they can't, just that they can't and no one has the right to force, coax, cajole or otherwise push him towards any one damn thing.
You might not like you got to share a body with a ten year old, but that's just the way it is.
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some people do think about it. and thinking about it doesn't always mean 'ready', which you already know. :) and thinking about it doesn't make one slutty.
(society is utterly bent.. i think the original poster's ideas of 'growing up' proves that...)
what i'm trying to say is that everyone handles things in their own time, when they're ready.
you understand that, and that's amazing. you - sort of make me like people more. (i'm kind of a misanthrope. often.)
thanks. :)
-pyou
(i don't really have a smiling-icon, but erik says i squint this way when i'm happy. i'm happy now, so you get to have a squinting kitten icon. ;) )
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I'm with Lisa. HOLYWHATTHEFUCK?! I swear I'd kill the motherfucker whole laid a hand on my 10 year old for the same purpose.
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Ditto on the holy fuck.
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But it has generated some interesting ethical reactions, at least.
Matti (our newest, and only 12) took one look at this and went "bleeeeeeeeh"
XD
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if you rush him you're doing much more harm than good.
leave him alone.
-pyou
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And be wary of the guy who's offered to rape him. You'd have to be pretty sick to rape a 10 year old. Are you sure he doesn't just see this as a cheap way of getting after your body?
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Seconded. You'd be surprised how many people (both male and female) see multiplicity as a way of getting into someone's pants.
Or, well, maybe you wouldn't be surprised. I'm probably preaching to the choir here. But there are a certain number of people out there who will be willing to jump all over the body, because the body is all they see and care about-- it doesn't matter who's at the front; that's just a convenient excuse for them. (Or they see it as roleplaying out their fetishes-- i.e. there will be legal repercussions if they have sex with a physical 10-year-old, so they see this as the closest it gets.)
-Lilac
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I'm 15. I live in a 27 year old body, but I'm an age slider, and spend most of my life at 8 years old.
When this body was 21, one of it's inhabitants' girlfriend molested me. That was horribly wrong, because regardless of my body's age, I AM NOT TWENTY SEVEN. I was definitely not ready for sex at eight, and it scarred me badly, and at fifteen, I'm still not ready. Maybe I never will be, maybe I'll be gay, maybe I'll be bisexual, maybe I'll be asexual for the rest of my life. I take it one day at a time, and no one in the pack tries to push me to have sex with anyone.
Now, I've said it, regardless of being horribly triggered by your post, and I feel bad, and my sympathies go out to Tony, because you're just as bad as Rick's ex was. Ten years old, mentally, emotionally, physically, is still ten years old. I don't give two shits how old you are, or how horny you are.
also? maybe it disturbs him that you have flings because he doesn't like sex in general. didja think of that?
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I know this community has a no-trigger-warnings-necessary rule (and rightly so; sticking trigger warnings everywhere would be a real pain) but can people try and remember that posts posted by prospective child abusers are pretty hard for some people?
I'm not saying we start sticking bloody asterisks in to blank out the vowels in words like 'cult' and 'Satan' and so on (because of course all multiplicity is caused by ritual abuse, naturally), but perhaps putting posts that say 'I want to rape my kid' behind a cut?
Thanks, Lynn xx
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What the fuck?
FYI, what you're pulling here is piss poor parenting. Ever think he may just need friends he can grow up with? Go work at a afterschool program or something and let him interact with other kids through you.
Don't do this sex shit. If sex 'made' people grow up, (how to put this to not sound terrible, but then again this topic is... [or so he thinks]) the little in our group would be years ahead of all of us.
I find some of what you're posting completely repulsive, and ill-advised.
Yet we told you to possibly partake in a better course of action (if you aren't a troll that is).
On a slightly different tack...
But.
In our experience intimacy is far more important than sex, but very, very intimidating for some people. Maybe its not the sex per se that is the issue, but intimacy itself in whatever form it manifests.
If your 10 yr old has intimacy issues those issues probably need to be addressed first, they may be far more fundamental to his well-being, and maybe to your own well-being too.
Does he shy away from affection?
Is he emotionally isolated and lonely?
How can you build a healthy realtionship with him in which he can trust you?
Just some ideas, we can see why lots of people are jumping your case here. If you really thought you were doing something loving and nurturing for him then just maybe you had good intentions, and you will take everyone's advice to heart.
Unfortunately you came off sounding like you were trying to fix your own problem by doing something with your kid that might have been very inappropriate and harmful. Remember, he is real too... not just an inconvenience or something to be 'fixed'.
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