Hello

[dragonsilver.livejournal.com]

Hello.

I'm an 18 yr old female and I have MPD. We are functional, except for the little *coughs* in the system. I am dating a 23 yr old male who is simply amazing. I have recently confided in him about the MPD, and he as expected took it greatly.(His best friend also has MPD)

Because of the fact this is a relationship between a singleton and a multiple, and I have little to no prior experiance with this I am looking for some help on how to make this work without making it awkward. The last thing I want is problems due to this. 

One of my alters is male, and in no way gay, and hates even holding hands with my boyfriend when he is fronting. This is the main reason this was confided into him-to go from touchy me to 'get your hands off of me' me I could tell was confusing the boyfriend. This alter has a bad temper and is very protective/possessive towards me, and can barely tolerate the boyfriends presence. My question for the alter is how can he politely tell the boyfriend to stop touching him-before he goes into a rage and intentionally hurts him. The alter has only been well behaved for the deals we have made for his good behaviour-however his patience for this little game is waning.

Any tips would be greatly appretiated.

Thank you for your time.

"Cassie-original to the body"
"Jake-the alter with the problem"

Comments

[catskillmarina.livejournal.com]

With all due respect, please step off the high horse.

No one is dictating anything to anyone. Just a suggestion.

As far as worrying about talk damaging anyone - please note
that this is a discussion group, not a theraputic group.

Again - we have no more authority than you do in telling people
how to define their terms.

--- Marina of Mtribe

[catskillmarina.livejournal.com]

Dr, your degree does not grant you authority here. After a long day of work
we are not up to debating MPD theory with you or anyone else.

I do have the right to say what was helpfull for us. Having someone stand up
for a couple of littles in our system made the difference between having a
functioning system and not. And i DO have the right to say what worked for US.

I beg you to look at what we have written and show how we defined anyone. Since
you are a student dr i also have to say that arrogance has turned many away from
respecting your field. I speak from a personal perspective here.

Anyway, Chill out. You are accusing us of writing things we did not write.

--- Marina of Mtribe

[catskillmarina.livejournal.com]

Lol - Bias - Well that was in the past before i married a psychiatrist ;-) I agree
that folks should be able to use their own terminology but as a freewheeling
community folks will say what they will say. I would not argue with anyone in the
theraputic communities.

Anyway i think we can BOTH call this argument as a case of overwork causing
irritability. Pardon me. We are the Mtribe and i am Marina. Pleased to meet you.

--- Marina of Mtribe

PS - know i gave my wife as hard a much harder time about MPD theories than you
here. One of these days we should actually write the arguments down.

[catskillmarina.livejournal.com]

Cool.

A while ago i asked my old wife/partner if all dr's were arrogant.

Her answer was - only the good ones.

That is true about unix administrators too.

--- Marina of Mtribe

[catskillmarina.livejournal.com]

It must be hard dealing with collegues. Our partner does not get along with many
of her collegue as well. She, like my uncle is willing to go to war over patient
care quality. Both of them have made a lot of enemies that way.

What that community psychiatrist said makes little sense. For the longest time we
did not work in the past as we got better through zen buddhism (via Marsha
Linehan). Even in a purly biological sense what that dr said made no sense as it
is proven that past injuries contribute to present problems.

Anyway, have a good night. We are going to curl up with a book.

--- Miri and Marina of Mtribe

[ksol1460.livejournal.com]

Oh, dear God.

Has the woman been able to find real help anywhere?

[ksol1460.livejournal.com]

It has to be what's right for you & co. We're pro-choice on integration, and if they want to be called parts, then that is what we will call them.

"People should be allowed to define their terms and write their own rules for how they choose to interact within the body and outside of it."

Amen.

[weirdiguess.livejournal.com]

Glad someone's saying it. It gets pretty annoying when everybody's saying to call them 'people' and not belittle them, but hey, I say call a spade a spade if the spade isn't bothered by it.

Not like she called the rest of us alters, that might be something to let her know can be offensive.

[mirrorbrothers.livejournal.com]

Seriously, I read that as Toni informing Cassie of a term Toni didn't think she knew. Sometimes people use unpopular terms about themselves because they feel they're accurate, which is perfectly fine, but sometimes they use them because they don't know any others. Learning the right words for stuff really helped me get my head on straight about Johnny. Maybe it could have been put better, but I say hooray for vocabulary lessons.

Rob

[weirdiguess.livejournal.com]

Well, my bad I guess. I figured if that's what they'd meant, that's what they would've said. I just saw them saying alters was offensive to a lot of people, when the OP didn't call anybody alters. Sounded to me like she was bothered about offense, not whether the shoe fit. It's just what I saw. My bad if I read it wrong.

[mirrorbrothers.livejournal.com]

Or maybe I'm the one who's wrong. I was just thinking that if someone had said something like that to me when I first got here, Johnny would have said "No kidding" and I would have learned something new and valuable. (My actual term was "imaginary friend" not "alter," but the point holds.) On the other hand, I can see where that statement might be read as something bad. *shrugs*

Rob