A Discussion Question

[rhymer-713.livejournal.com]

We just found this article and were mildly shocked. What do you all think? We're posting this here for discussion's sake.
hthttp://www.spiritlink.com/scrmpd.html
Enjoy,
Jess and Alissa

Comments

[bladespark.livejournal.com]

Thank you for saying that!

As much as it's very sad that most people assume integration is the only possible happy outcome for somebody who is multiple, I do find that in multiple communities the pendulum tends to swing the other way a bit, and condemn integration completely.

I think it's too easy for people to just assume that somewhere at the center of things, all people are really just like they are. That's why a lot of folks don't really believe in multiples, they are just one person, and surely these people who claim to be multiple are really just one person, showing different aspects, or being deluded, or whatever. I had another multiple try and tell me that my system didn't work the way it actually does, but rather it worked more like how his systme works, and it started to get a little frustrating!

[sethrenn.livejournal.com]

I'm not anti-integration at all. My take is that should be a matter of personal choice for every system. What I do think is that integration may be a lot more difficult than it's portrayed as being in all the books, movies, etc-- the most believable description we've read is that you have to basically re-train your thought processes so that you respond as one rather than as many; as opposed to the idea that, say, all someone has to do is reveal a traumatic memory and they'll automatically be merged with someone else.

However, that doesn't stop me from thinking that it's a valid goal, if agreed to be the goal by the whole group.

The whole... deciding that another system is a faker/attention-seeker/delusional/etc thing (or, even if genuinely multiple, are very misguided and confused) if they work too differently from you is something I've seen, though, and I agree, gets really frustrating. I've actually noticed a tendency towards it in some of the older writings I did online about multiplicity, which is a bit embarassing. But... live and learn, I guess.

[rhymer-713.livejournal.com]

Agrees with you. Integration should most definitely be a choice made by the entire group and we will try our very best never to condemn any one for anything let alone the choices they make. And we've had that whole "youdon'tworklikemesoyou'renotright" thing done a few times too. Frustrating is definitely the word.