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It seems that we function even more different than other multiples here than we originally thought, as we have not been able to give any feedback to other posts recently. Take the matter of relationships for example, which have been taken into discussion over the last couple of days in several posts. We have never seen it as possible to have a close relationship, as we are too close together to accept certain tastes in genders. Once we tried to come to a solution by voting, but that left us in the wrong kind of physical form ourselves! So we have remained asexual, as that was the best way to keep everyone in control. Perhaps we can't involve ourselves because of our way of existing as one united mind, but is there none of you who have decided to refrain from using their physical form intimately?

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I have a few in my syste who are hesitant about sexuality (either being too young or being men, and thus uncomfortable expressing themselves sexually in a female body) but not everyone in my system is involved with my husband or any of my lovers, nor am I neccessarily involved with theirs. My husband and I are polyamorous and so we encourage each other to seek other relationships and we do the same for the others in our systems (we're also both multiple, which makes things a bit easy on the understanding end as well.)

You only mention some of you who decides to refrain from intimacy, your physical form has still been involved with your husband and your lovers. We never accepted anything such, even when young we left ourselves apart from others. We've continued to be without any relationships with any of us, as we cannot exist as anything else than equals within our mind. If one would get a partner, the others would start making similar demands. And we can never risk the damage that could do to our inner balance, so we remain physically untouched.

I'm not sure I quite get it, given being polyamorous, we're all bound by the same rules as far as relationships go, and thus equal. Those who choose not to express themselves sexually do so either because of their age or because they have qualms with our body's gender, but those who choose to have a partner (or more) can do so as long as they adhere to the same rules as everyone else (most of which concern safety.)
I fail to see how this arrangement doesn't provide equality, nor do I see how it could damage inner balance. If anything, your arrangement would, in our circumstances, cause harm as many within this system require physical intimacy for one reason or another (the most extreme of which being a "succubus" for lack of a better term.)

We have a rather perfectionistic approach to dealing with things. Many of us have abandoned the whole concept of genders, with the goal of keeping our body without any acceptance of it's gender. And as we try to function sharing the same consiousness of this physical form, we find too many objecting immediately to any intimate situations. So equality in this matter would be impossible, as we cannot "swap" control of our body. We are mostly a blur of identities, with some expressing themselves stronger at different seasons.

That sounds far from perfection or equality to me and those in our system. That sounds like a huge sacrifice of individuality for little gain. We much prefer being ourselves and just splitting the usage of the body.

Allright, so we suppose we're not much for experiencing things through this body anyway. We've always just been able to feel true happiness when been deep inside our mind, without any need to control this disturbing machine of flesh. None of us really want to be "up front" anyway, so we guess that's another explaination for our lack of relationships.

Maybe I'm completely missing what you're saying, but it sounds like you don't want that body or life, which sounds rather unhealthy. Have you tried seeking outside help to find more happiness/contentment in life?

We manage when we co-operate to deal with obstacles, and although we have our difficulties, this form of existing together has left our troubles apart from ourselves. We're not much for reality, that's for sure. Most of us have never accepted our explicit atheism, which have left this world without point. And as many of us have always seen themselves as supernatural, we can only let them be that apart from reality. We can't cut off their wings, so we carry the burden of existance for them, hiding the clinically horrible truths of the world from their innocent eyes.
We've tried to find somewhere in reality to be ourselves, but it always takes more than it gives. We might have a rather large weakness, but we've compensated by making our interaction between ourselves as positive as possible. It works, as the only cracks in our system lies outside of ourselves. And we can focus ourselves on such issues, making them dissappear quicker than most singlets could ever hope to. But, true, it never interests us. We've accepted our body though, as long as we don't have to split ourselves to control it.

That sounds like hell to us. I think our differences a too great for me to really understand your situation.

It would certainly seem so. We have always had an extremely complicated way of existing, but as it works for us, we cannot complain. The only problem we have is reality, after all, and that leaves the rest completely free from any suffering. It's the only way we can exist in harmony with ourselves.

Suffering is a part of reality, so it makes sense you have qualms with it. Personally, I think without the suffering and such, we can't truly appreciate the good.

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