Hmm.. yeah.. it can be a big.. and really scary decision.. the only place we aren't open about being plural is at work.. cause well.. 1)we live in the south 2) work with people who.. believe everything they see in soap operas/tv.

For us it was easier to tell some people we trusted (our closest friends) see how that went and go from there.. Or if people asked why certain things changed so much.. we were honest..

but it's scary and very difficult dance to pull off at times.