In the physical world I wouldn't consider this person to have power over me, at least not currently, because of our age and experience/educational differential*; I'm still about a fifth older than her. However, in the long run, I feel it's likely that she would have more power, not in the least because she's going into the mental health industry. I'm not anti-psychiatry, but I wouldn't want this person treating me.
On this board, I feel that space for multiples has been maintained to an extent, and I feel it's been maintained through dialogue. I feel that if I (and others) didn't say anything, that space would be threatened. This is really one of the few spaces on the 'net where I can come and talk about things pertaining to multiplicity and not get some blank stare.
I don't think I would want the community to be closed, but it's not okay for someone to come into the community and say "hello, I fetishize you". For me, that is not respectful. That's not respectful of who I am as a person, it objectifies me, and if I'm watching, I'm not going to let it slide. (I shouldn't be so quick to pick up that mantle; my heat may be tempered in the near future.)
Power is always temporary, and it has to be maintained. I would not say that this person has more authority than myself, but then I would not say I had more authority than her. If I thought I had more authority than her, I would not have replied when she called me "pissy". However, I interpreted her response as an attempt to wield power over me in my own community ("well, if you don't do what I want [i.e. desire to be my 'friend'], you're a loser anyway"), and I interpreted that to show a lack of respect for who and what I am. Lack of respect can go hand in hand with fetishization. She even stated that a fetish often involved a sense of disgust.
I am *not* convinced that this person has a respect for multiples in general, because if she had it, then what generated her acerbic response? "I'm here, but I don't trust you yet" does not imply "I hate you, get out", but she responded as though that is what I had said.
And I think at this point, I'm done.
--Blaze
*I usually try not to be ageist, but in some cases I just can't ignore someone else's maturity level, and in some cases, that maturity level is pretty near someone's age. I know I'm still in the 'pretty young' phase of 'young adult' at 23; I'm young enough to know that high schoolers are (or try to be) cruel, and old enough to know that I don't know everything.
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On this board, I feel that space for multiples has been maintained to an extent, and I feel it's been maintained through dialogue. I feel that if I (and others) didn't say anything, that space would be threatened. This is really one of the few spaces on the 'net where I can come and talk about things pertaining to multiplicity and not get some blank stare.
I don't think I would want the community to be closed, but it's not okay for someone to come into the community and say "hello, I fetishize you". For me, that is not respectful. That's not respectful of who I am as a person, it objectifies me, and if I'm watching, I'm not going to let it slide. (I shouldn't be so quick to pick up that mantle; my heat may be tempered in the near future.)
Power is always temporary, and it has to be maintained. I would not say that this person has more authority than myself, but then I would not say I had more authority than her. If I thought I had more authority than her, I would not have replied when she called me "pissy". However, I interpreted her response as an attempt to wield power over me in my own community ("well, if you don't do what I want [i.e. desire to be my 'friend'], you're a loser anyway"), and I interpreted that to show a lack of respect for who and what I am. Lack of respect can go hand in hand with fetishization. She even stated that a fetish often involved a sense of disgust.
I am *not* convinced that this person has a respect for multiples in general, because if she had it, then what generated her acerbic response? "I'm here, but I don't trust you yet" does not imply "I hate you, get out", but she responded as though that is what I had said.
And I think at this point, I'm done.
--Blaze
*I usually try not to be ageist, but in some cases I just can't ignore someone else's maturity level, and in some cases, that maturity level is pretty near someone's age. I know I'm still in the 'pretty young' phase of 'young adult' at 23; I'm young enough to know that high schoolers are (or try to be) cruel, and old enough to know that I don't know everything.