I *do* know why I don't ask kids why they talk the way they do - because I wouldn't ask real life kids "why did you pick 'ain't' up from your aunt!!" It's not their responsibility to answer that kind of question.

dude, my parents and teachers and general adults that i knew asked me those kinds of questions ALL THE TIME when i was little... like, "do you know what that word means?" or "you should say 'can't' instead of 'cain't'" etc... while you are techincally not their parent, you are still a guardian and it actually IS your responsibility to teach them... i mean, assuming that you want to teach them... *shrug* i'm just assuming that you do, but if you don't, that's fine too, i was just assuming...

and as far as pointing it out to other systems kids, you're right, it's not your "responsibility", but cubbie didn't start the community out of "responsibility" or because he was angry, (which you assumed incorrectly), he started it because he wants to help those that ask for it... to me, it sounds like you are kinda saying that "it's not MY job to teach my kid sex-ed, they'll learn that from school"... i know that's an extreme example, but i think you can understand what i'm saying...