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[bacskocky.livejournal.com]

It's people liek this that cause the world of multiples to never be seen for what it truly is

(btw, for those of you who don't know me (pretty much everyone) I'm a non-multiple whose SO is a member of a multiple system)

EDIT:

The purpose of me posting this was not to bash one specific person for their belief on how they should treat my SO. This is jsut the first example I've gotten that is in WRITING of the way so many people think that a few pamphlets, a couple documentaries, and maybe a book or two and they're geniuses on the topic. They're the ones who don't see that whether someone is faking the "disorder" or not, it is often a defense mechanism, not something for purely attention. Even if it IS for attention, maybe teh person believes that surrounding themselves with a large number of peopel on the outside will protect them.

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[elenbarathi.livejournal.com]

Kír (duathir) isn't 'up' right now, but says he wasn't discounting the validity of anyone's system because of how they write - just pointing out that writing in lilspeak in a public journal is likely to cause many people to discount it.

I find lilspeak fairly irritating too, but no worse than l337 or chtspk. People who write in those jargons also do it for the sake of group-identity - not because they can't write standard English - and when they do it in public, they often get mocked for it. Most of them don't seem to care, though. People who are prone to getting their feelings hurt when they're mocked by no-life trolls on Livejournal do have the option of friends-locking their posts.

I have one very old and dear friend who went through a "lilspeak phase" for a while, where she'd call me up and blither away in the most appalling, barely-comprehensible fake babytalk. I don't believe she's really multiple, because over the years I've seen her go through any number of other "phases" involving improbable claims (demons in her apartment, the Mafia after her, etcetera).

I don't think she's actually delusional, either; I think she just has a habit of making wild shit up because she doesn't believe she can hold peoples' interest any other way. Kír has no patience with her at all; he thinks she's an untrustworthy idiot, and has always been adamant that she is not to ever know about him and Crist-Erui, but I like her a lot; she is fun, talented and good-hearted, even though totally unreliable. I don't believe anything she tells me, but I don't say so; I just change the subject when she gets off on one of her wild stories.

Maybe she really is multiple. I doubt it, but it's possible, and certainly there's no way to prove she's not. If I can't be sure after 27 years of realtime friendship, there's no way I can be sure about people online whom I've never even met.

LOL, Kír says that even if she is really multiple, he still thinks she's an idiot. Well, maybe she is, or at least acts like one a lot of the time, but she's my friend nonetheless. I don't encourage her baby-talk thing, though, and if someone who hadn't been my friend for years and years started doing it, I'd most likely back off from them.

People who aren't multiple themselves are liable to back off from it a lot quicker, and they're also less likely to be inhibited about saying what they think of it. uzielnz is a lout, but if chrisau8r has been going around talking lilspeak to her realtime cronies and telling them all about her multiplicity, maybe he does have a valid point, because that sort of thing can get old really fast.