that's lucky for you. for me, the first time was last year, Dat (who was the boss-in-charge until a few days ago when he quit) was talking to some friends, I can't remmeber which happened first but he was getting sensitive everytime they implied things and they were getting fed up with him being touchy, so it didn't go well. He came across as a bit of a b-stard, took some alone time for a couple of months, came back and things are largely better now. We did lose friends though. Some support us, some insist we're lying and accuse us of it behind my back (said it to Dat and lil eri, and also when none of us were present, but never to me who they assume is the only "real" person here). It hurts. We're getting used to it though.