Briefly,(difficult for us) I wanted to thank you for your fascinating post which turned me on to the fact that there is a community about synesthesia! Loved hearing about voices tasting like vanilla. Our own synesthia is strictly visual, so we are missing this experience.
The meat grinder experience of smooshing everyone together is most unpleasant, and ultimately unnecessary, although I have to admit we still try that around biological family.
Wouldnt worry about physicians or anyone else surmising that..hey, this person hears different ranges at different times..she must be MULTIPLE! Most people are neither that observant or that imaginative.
Appreciated the comment about the triumph of not clocking your ob/gyn. Once our midwife had this chirpy little blonde with her, and said, "This is my assistant. Would you mind if she.." My child's father said that for a minute it looked as if I would throw the assistant down the stairs, before I recollected myself and just howled, "NO!"