yeah it's really hard finding a good therapist.. When we moved, we were terrified it'd take forever to find a good one.. We REALLY lucked out.. we found two.. the other lady we never even did more than interview.. (she was good, but we felt we'd found the right lady). The lady we talk to now.. says that it's more important that we cooperate.. she's even said that integration would NOT work for us.. (which we were and are really happy about)..we haven't made time for the littles to play or talk about about of things, but we can switch freely around her.. and she NOTICES..

Oh, and we've found much better luck working with licensed clinical social workers.. than with psychologists or psychiatrists. Social workers seem more focused on dealing with issues than tossing labels around and following a format /plan.. . The lady we didn't meet with, but who sounded very cool.. said she followed something called "internal family systems" or something. basically there is a chairperson/people and they oversee/ cooperate with others, and help each other make the whole life better..and they apply it to plurals and single souls (it sorta squicked us.. but we were pretty shaky during the move). Not totally sure what the lady we work with now practices.. she seems pretty eclectic.. She has said a lot that "the same path doesn't work for everyone, we need to find the stuff that works for you all".

We're in tennessee