Umm... As to why some of us may not like others fronting:
There is often dissension about how a particular front is handling things... We don't get enough of our needs met.
Too often the one fronting doesn't seem to know how to gracefully step aside. How do you do that?
In some ways it may be a control issue, where a front thinks they know best.
Or it may be a fear issue where a Friont may be afraid to let go.
The possibility that it is a trust issue is a very good point to.
But it seems to be the case that no one we can trust really wants the job of fronting.
There are some among us who will just try to get us killed if they front. It can be a struggle to supress their dangerous urges when they want to crash our car or do something else that is baically suicidal.
And then there are others who might be dangerous in other ways. We seem to share some beliefs in common which are open to a fairly wide interpretation of what these beliefs might make permissable.
So our fronts must be relied upon to generally follow some principles, such as: Do no harm. Trust first. Do not judge.
These are more like guidelines than absolute rules, as we can't be sure our good intentions might not do harm, and we often wind up with prejudices we are unaware of and may typically disaprove of. We used to generally hate prejudiced people until we realised that hating people for being prejudiced was a form of prejudice, and also pintless since it seems likely that no one can be entirely free of prejudice of some sort or other.
You are quite right to note that everyone has weaknesses and strengths, thanks for reminding us. We do tend to become myopic at times.
We try not to worry to much about our conflicting goals and beliefs and such. We have done better at accepting our differences in the past 6 months or so, but before that we could get so locked up in our inner conflicts that we became very dysfunctional and had trouble getting anything done.
Discovering this LJ community may make a huge difference in how we understand ourselves and work together. We are very optimisitic that there will be lots to learn and share here.
To Front or not to Front
There is often dissension about how a particular front is handling things... We don't get enough of our needs met.
Too often the one fronting doesn't seem to know how to gracefully step aside. How do you do that?
In some ways it may be a control issue, where a front thinks they know best.
Or it may be a fear issue where a Friont may be afraid to let go.
The possibility that it is a trust issue is a very good point to.
But it seems to be the case that no one we can trust really wants the job of fronting.
There are some among us who will just try to get us killed if they front. It can be a struggle to supress their dangerous urges when they want to crash our car or do something else that is baically suicidal.
And then there are others who might be dangerous in other ways. We seem to share some beliefs in common which are open to a fairly wide interpretation of what these beliefs might make permissable.
So our fronts must be relied upon to generally follow some principles, such as: Do no harm. Trust first. Do not judge.
These are more like guidelines than absolute rules, as we can't be sure our good intentions might not do harm, and we often wind up with prejudices we are unaware of and may typically disaprove of. We used to generally hate prejudiced people until we realised that hating people for being prejudiced was a form of prejudice, and also pintless since it seems likely that no one can be entirely free of prejudice of some sort or other.
You are quite right to note that everyone has weaknesses and strengths, thanks for reminding us. We do tend to become myopic at times.
We try not to worry to much about our conflicting goals and beliefs and such. We have done better at accepting our differences in the past 6 months or so, but before that we could get so locked up in our inner conflicts that we became very dysfunctional and had trouble getting anything done.
Discovering this LJ community may make a huge difference in how we understand ourselves and work together. We are very optimisitic that there will be lots to learn and share here.
thanks!