Connecting with other systems

[teh-kerry.livejournal.com]

Something we did the other day, that freaked us out marginally, and we were wondering if anyone else had experienced it before.

There's this other system that we're pretty close to - most of us have partners over there, we spend a lot of time with them and we're pretty involved in their affairs. For a while, we've known that we can make some sort of connection with them - we can visit their 'inside', and they can visit ours.

Normally, we need some sort of external physical connection to do this, but recently, we've worked out that we can 'leave people' over there temporarily. They leave our system, and take up residence over there - they can even take front over there, which is pretty freaky. For reasons that're way too complex to go into now, we 'left' Liam and Steve over there the other day, to help out with something.

This has affected us a lot more than we thought it would. It feels really weird not having around two people who we're used to having around, and we don't have a chance to 'retrieve' them until Tuesday. Which might not seem like long, but it feels incredibly odd to have two pretty important members of our system missing, even for a couple of hours.

We were just wondering if anyone else has done or tried something like this before, and if anyone has any tips for coping without two people who we're used to relying on and having around.

Kelly

Comments

[laura-isaac.livejournal.com]

I'm not entirely multiple (I think I'm median but I'm still trying to sort things out but that's for a different time) but I can leave the boys in my head with their wives in my girlfriend's system and vice versa :) even though we are 4500 miles away. They even help out in her system if they are needed.

BTW, totally unrelated question, your icons? How did you make them? The boys are prodding me to make ones of their own?

[our-menagerie.livejournal.com]

We do that all the time with the other system we are involved with. We have been doing it for a couple years now and they are more comfortable with it than we are. Sometimes our people being over there can be hard and if its been too long they will sometimes come back here spontaneously which can be very confusing for both systems. The other hard part for me is if one of their people is over here and I really have something important to say to them I would prefer they talk to me from their own body. That may sound silly but they remember better that way and I dont have to second guess myself like I sometimes do if they are talking to me from here...like did she say that because she knew thats what I wanted her to say type of thing. As for coping, the only thing I can tell you is dont panic. I think if you really want them back before tuesday write the other system an email or msg them however you do and tell them you need/want them to come back home. It just takes getting use to and even though Im use to it, I still prefer to talk to people in their own bodies most of the time. But sometimes it helps, it can be a useful tool for both systems. Just I wouldnt do it with anyone I didnt absolutely trust.

sj

[tej-agni.livejournal.com]

There are some who've visited the realm for the group I'm with. Visiting other people? I think Amirah can do that. She's visited a few people in the past. Some others might be able to do it too, but I'm not sure. Hot tea sure is good! :)

-Butterfly

[teh-kerry.livejournal.com]

Thanks for all the tips :) We got them back today, managed to see the system we'd 'sent them over' to. The problem we had was that we need physical contact to make a link, which isn't always possible.

(I'm currently wishing we didn't have them back, actually :P They've done nothing useful, they're just sprawled around the place eating, drinking and making a mess. But that's guys for you).

[gryphons.livejournal.com]

*nods* we visit our partners' household.. among other locations.. fortunately it doesn't take physical contact for us.. since they live in a different town... so yeah.. it happens.. as far as tips.. *shrugs* try not to stress about it.. they'll be back.. Micah and Gabe, two of our primaries, spend a LOT of time with their wife.. it's still weird.. at times.. but they come back feeling much better.
-Rain

[anhedonicjester.livejournal.com]

uhm, how does that work? does that sound rude? i mean, im kinda assuming most of you dont know exactly how either just that you can do it... but does anyone have some insight into how switching bodies is possible?

[ricktboy.livejournal.com]

we've done it. let people help other people, or borrowed someone else. the lending isn't so odd as the borrowing... when we have more than two visitors, the body's head feels strange... like when you've eaten a large meal and your belly feels PACKED and full? that's how the head gets.

Blendyness
Pack Collective

[ksol1460.livejournal.com]

http://www.livejournal.com/tools/memories.bml?user=multiplicity&keyword=traveling+%26+visiting&filter=all

We have done this since we were about ten. The way we do it, when people we are used to relying on are absent, we have other people take their place.