We usually do have that shared know-how. It seems to come with fronting. There are occasionally times when one or the other of us will just blank, but usually the memory is there, it just takes a little more digging to find it. It's pretty disconcerting for some of us when those who aren't out often come out and can't find that sort of info and skills, so we try to leave room for people to be out when it won't cause problems. That seems to be our most annoying problem with being multiple. There's a lot of us, but only one life to share between us.

I don't really think it's fair of her to tell others to go away. I mean, I know that people generally expect that sort of continuity of personality, but if she accepts that you all are sharing a body, then I think she should be making an effort to get to know the others and be friendly instead of just focusing on the one that satisfies what she's looking for. In my book it's pretty selfish. Maybe that's harsh, but I do think it's kind of rude to not be interested in getting to know the rest of you.

Catherine