When Gary keeps secrets from me, I can't feel him as strongly. That is one possibility. Another might be that as Ricktboy said, she might be blocking them subconsciously, maybe cause she does't want to hear their disaproval. I know that when I am worried about what Gary is going to say, I find it hard to hear him. Also, one time I blacked out, in our spiritual house, and Gary had to take over for me for a couple of years, cause I kept going unconscious in all senses of the word. I mean I wasn't going somewhere else, I just wasn't aware anywhere. I guess if that had happened to him, and I hadn't noticed... well maybe she should search around. Maybe they have passed out.