You only mention some of you who decides to refrain from intimacy, your physical form has still been involved with your husband and your lovers. We never accepted anything such, even when young we left ourselves apart from others. We've continued to be without any relationships with any of us, as we cannot exist as anything else than equals within our mind. If one would get a partner, the others would start making similar demands. And we can never risk the damage that could do to our inner balance, so we remain physically untouched.