Hells yes. *g* We're a mess of very different people thrown into and forced to share a single body. No, we don't agree on matters of relationship and sex. Do we agree on anything?
Technically, our 'rules' as put forth by the governing council of the Consortium (I got a lot of respect for them -- no, really!) we are not allowed to date. At all. Romantic and sexual relationships are simply forbidden. This is because in the mix we have kids who aren't ready for sex or people who have issues with sex, and because the very cynical among us don't think anyone out there can seriously handle the whole multiple thing and all the other weirdnesses that come along with being close to us. Makes for a lonely existence.
On the other hand... and I doubt the rest of the Consortium will read this, so I'm safe... could our council really stop us if one of us started a relationship with someone? No. I'm sure it'd be hell for that person if there wasn't *some* agreement ("Oh honey, I love you. -- Argh! Don't touch me! -- Wait, what's your name?") but if both someone in the Consortium was determined and the person they were seeking a relationship with were then it'd happen.
I am a mostly-straight male; straight for all intents and purposes but I'm not going to close any doors. *g* I'm also horny. *wiggles eyebrows* Among the common fronters, we have several straight guys and several straight girls, a couple gay guys, several lesbians, and who knows how many who are bi. We also have a handful of asexuals. And each one of us has our own kinks and preferences I'm sure. I've never really asked.
And our rules state that in this reality we will enter into relationships with females only and that we will identify as lesbian.
Obviously that causes problems. I'm not actually sure *how* we came to that law, I wasn't on the committee. *g* I think mostly it was because of the triggers and problems that having sex might cause, they were greatly made worse by males. Or maybe at the time the decision was made, the entire council was made up of lesbians. Heh.
We're also poly. I personally think that all multiple systems who date are technically going to have to be poly, even if their relationships here are limited to one outside person monogamously. But how many people from the system are dating that one person? Of course, we all have our unique relationships with each person here on earth. One of us may be dating someone, another just considers said person a friend, another is married to them. But we are poly, in that we're open to relationships between this body and more than one other body. We also have "intrasystem" relationships -- that is, relationships in the other world, which would happen to come across to others as the fact that some of us date others in the system.
In terms of kinks, we have the rule 'safe, sane and consensual' -- even though we may not be into bdsm. And everyone we date must be aware of safewords, for *any* situation, not just sexual or kinky. They also have to be aware of who we are before we'd ever get into that kind of situation with them, so they could notice a switch or something sending us up the wall. There's a lot of planning and setting up ways out and so on for each thing. Obviously things are going to be different if you've got coconsciousness; we don't.
My suggestion? Be open-minded and maybe experiment a little -- SAFELY. Everyone in a system should be equal and everyone's needs and wants should be considered. Obviously stay away from anything harmful or illegal. And use safewords that everyone in your system and whomever you're with are aware of. I'm not saying go out and start dating women. *g* But maybe add a little bit to the relationship(s) you've got going now.
This is way too long. *lmao* I don't even know if it'll save.
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Technically, our 'rules' as put forth by the governing council of the Consortium (I got a lot of respect for them -- no, really!) we are not allowed to date. At all. Romantic and sexual relationships are simply forbidden. This is because in the mix we have kids who aren't ready for sex or people who have issues with sex, and because the very cynical among us don't think anyone out there can seriously handle the whole multiple thing and all the other weirdnesses that come along with being close to us. Makes for a lonely existence.
On the other hand... and I doubt the rest of the Consortium will read this, so I'm safe... could our council really stop us if one of us started a relationship with someone? No. I'm sure it'd be hell for that person if there wasn't *some* agreement ("Oh honey, I love you. -- Argh! Don't touch me! -- Wait, what's your name?") but if both someone in the Consortium was determined and the person they were seeking a relationship with were then it'd happen.
I am a mostly-straight male; straight for all intents and purposes but I'm not going to close any doors. *g* I'm also horny. *wiggles eyebrows* Among the common fronters, we have several straight guys and several straight girls, a couple gay guys, several lesbians, and who knows how many who are bi. We also have a handful of asexuals. And each one of us has our own kinks and preferences I'm sure. I've never really asked.
And our rules state that in this reality we will enter into relationships with females only and that we will identify as lesbian.
Obviously that causes problems. I'm not actually sure *how* we came to that law, I wasn't on the committee. *g* I think mostly it was because of the triggers and problems that having sex might cause, they were greatly made worse by males. Or maybe at the time the decision was made, the entire council was made up of lesbians. Heh.
We're also poly. I personally think that all multiple systems who date are technically going to have to be poly, even if their relationships here are limited to one outside person monogamously. But how many people from the system are dating that one person? Of course, we all have our unique relationships with each person here on earth. One of us may be dating someone, another just considers said person a friend, another is married to them. But we are poly, in that we're open to relationships between this body and more than one other body. We also have "intrasystem" relationships -- that is, relationships in the other world, which would happen to come across to others as the fact that some of us date others in the system.
In terms of kinks, we have the rule 'safe, sane and consensual' -- even though we may not be into bdsm. And everyone we date must be aware of safewords, for *any* situation, not just sexual or kinky. They also have to be aware of who we are before we'd ever get into that kind of situation with them, so they could notice a switch or something sending us up the wall. There's a lot of planning and setting up ways out and so on for each thing. Obviously things are going to be different if you've got coconsciousness; we don't.
My suggestion? Be open-minded and maybe experiment a little -- SAFELY. Everyone in a system should be equal and everyone's needs and wants should be considered. Obviously stay away from anything harmful or illegal. And use safewords that everyone in your system and whomever you're with are aware of. I'm not saying go out and start dating women. *g* But maybe add a little bit to the relationship(s) you've got going now.
This is way too long. *lmao* I don't even know if it'll save.