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We are having the weirdest experience with a outside friend of Tieas.
She'll often start a quetion with Tiea with "So where do YOU want to go"? Tiea will typicaly wait a second or two and listen to us to see if we have a special place in mindwere all rooting for and answer the friend.
Allot of times the friend will say "we' disagreed and "came out and said something differnt", if its not a place the friend wants to go to, or like a movieshe wants to see, the friend will blame it on "us " and say "well all your little people couldet decide so were not going anywhere" If she's driving.

Or Tiea will end up some place she did not want to be and the frind will say "So and so said No" This is so NOT true and Tiea is catching on . We first off dont like being called "the little people" But to end up at a movie or club none of us wanted to go to and have it blamed on s is bothersome.

Has anyone had something like this happen? Were not sure weather one of us should say something( seperatly) to her(the friend)or wait for Tiea to say "No I was here and nobody switched at all" I dont think I'm explaining this well. But this outside friend will blame "us " "the little people inside "She even has called us "the munckins" Tiea just hung up the phone on her .
Peace Shelby

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Keeping in mind that I just woke up, I would have to say that I agree with pretty much every one else who has posted. You do not need a friend who keeps messing with your head, and manipulating or trying to manipulate you. I can understand being worried about loosing one of a small number of outside friends. But if she is willing to use the other people in your system as excuses as to why you should do X-thing, that's quite disrespect in a number of ways. We have a very, very small amount of people that are truly friends but all the same prefer that over having a large amount that we might not be able to trust. Any way's, we wish you luck with dealing with this friend of yours.

Apollyon

Agreed , We just told her today what shewa sdoing and she still didnt get it and acted like she was doing Tiea a favor to include us inher discussions with Tiea. So we see her at work but we wont on the weekends.

We've beeen getting allot of unhealthy people out of our lives
Thanks Shelby and Marcil

She said No she said, they said

manipulation isn't friendly

Re: manipulation isn't friendly