1. Letting someone else have 'emergency switch authority' is a privilege and not a right. They need to know that and so do you. If you are antsy about it, you need to talk to this person and let them know that you're really uneasy about this. Only a couple of outside people we know have that ability, and that's only because we granted that and they've never abused it. Only in cases of extreme panic without resolution are they allowed to even go there, and for a long time that has never even been an issue so I suppose that's pretty good news about where we're at in means of our anxiety problems.
4. We find it's a pick and choose kind of deal when it comes to who we tell and what we tell. The further we get in life, the easier we find it is getting to tell who you can trust and who you can't. And some people, of course, will never understand, but if they love and respect you anyway then that's the best they can do. We made the mistake for a long time of expecting too much from people who just can't wrap their heads around certain notions, and if they didn't fit that blown-up expectation they were jerks. As long as no one is mean or cruel to you because of it, they don't deserve exclusion from your life if you have chosen to disclose to them.
7. Sorry. We're in Toronto, but someday we might visit Mass. if one of our friends keeps plugging it the way he does. ;)
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Date: 2005-10-04 01:09 am (UTC)1. Letting someone else have 'emergency switch authority' is a privilege and not a right. They need to know that and so do you. If you are antsy about it, you need to talk to this person and let them know that you're really uneasy about this. Only a couple of outside people we know have that ability, and that's only because we granted that and they've never abused it. Only in cases of extreme panic without resolution are they allowed to even go there, and for a long time that has never even been an issue so I suppose that's pretty good news about where we're at in means of our anxiety problems.
4. We find it's a pick and choose kind of deal when it comes to who we tell and what we tell. The further we get in life, the easier we find it is getting to tell who you can trust and who you can't. And some people, of course, will never understand, but if they love and respect you anyway then that's the best they can do. We made the mistake for a long time of expecting too much from people who just can't wrap their heads around certain notions, and if they didn't fit that blown-up expectation they were jerks. As long as no one is mean or cruel to you because of it, they don't deserve exclusion from your life if you have chosen to disclose to them.
7. Sorry. We're in Toronto, but someday we might visit Mass. if one of our friends keeps plugging it the way he does. ;)