1. Well I don't know your friend, but I guess the best way would be to just tell him that when you talk things are confidential, that you want to help him, and all of that. That he's safe to say whatever he wants to and doesn't have to worry about what you'll think about it.
2. First off I'd treat them like a real person, not just an "alter". Especially if it's one of the non-violent ones, try to establish a friendship and explain who you are and your intentions as well as your relationship to your friend if they don't know all that already. Perhaps having more friends in the system working together will help calm down the more violent members. It might be rude to them for you to show no interest in having anything to do with them and only wanting to associate with the one member of the system. Just try to be polite about the situation.
3. Tell him that. My advice here is pretty much the same for #1.
4. This will depend on him and his system - all systems work differently, and I can't really say that Our system works like what I think you're describing or that I'm all too sure what would be causing it maybe. But I'd also recommend that he consciously keeps up with his health as anyone would do regardless of being multiple or not. (As in making sure he's eating a healthy diet, getting enough rest, not coming down with a cold, etc.)
Also, just a note. A lot of people here are very anti-integration. To many multiples it is like murder because it is essentially killing off people in a system. You might want to check out some of the FAQs linked on the community userinfo about integration and just about multiplicity in general. Reading some of the community members' personal pages might give you some more insight about how other (functional) systems work as multiples. The fact that he's trying to integrate may also be contributing to the anger of some of the other members in the system. Wouldn't you act out violently if someone was trying to kill you? Try to think of it that way.
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2. First off I'd treat them like a real person, not just an "alter". Especially if it's one of the non-violent ones, try to establish a friendship and explain who you are and your intentions as well as your relationship to your friend if they don't know all that already. Perhaps having more friends in the system working together will help calm down the more violent members. It might be rude to them for you to show no interest in having anything to do with them and only wanting to associate with the one member of the system. Just try to be polite about the situation.
3. Tell him that. My advice here is pretty much the same for #1.
4. This will depend on him and his system - all systems work differently, and I can't really say that Our system works like what I think you're describing or that I'm all too sure what would be causing it maybe. But I'd also recommend that he consciously keeps up with his health as anyone would do regardless of being multiple or not. (As in making sure he's eating a healthy diet, getting enough rest, not coming down with a cold, etc.)
Also, just a note. A lot of people here are very anti-integration. To many multiples it is like murder because it is essentially killing off people in a system. You might want to check out some of the FAQs linked on the community userinfo about integration and just about multiplicity in general. Reading some of the community members' personal pages might give you some more insight about how other (functional) systems work as multiples. The fact that he's trying to integrate may also be contributing to the anger of some of the other members in the system. Wouldn't you act out violently if someone was trying to kill you? Try to think of it that way.
~Bleach