I'm a great believer in "practice makes perfect", and it might help if you and Jeremey practice together - switch in and out, co-front, do 'duets', play around with the music - so when you get out in front of the audience, it won't seem so strange. You may find that the two of you together achieve a whole new style, a synthesis of your different techniques that's better than either of you individually. I haven't yet managed to sing while Crist-Erui plays, but when we practice together we can sometimes switch back and forth almost seamlessly, and maybe eventually he'll be able to do the instrumentals while I do the vocals, which would be awesome.
"And when we inevitably end up messily co-fronting, I have big problems with both sorting out my identity from everyone else's (which is what I always do to stay sane, anyway)"
Consider this: maybe it's not necessary for you to sort out your identity from everyone else's - maybe it'll just naturally sort itself out if you just relax and let it do so. I can always tell myself and Kír apart, but I can't always tell myself and Crist-Erui apart, and Kír says sometimes he feels that the boundary between himself and Crist-Erui isn't clear. It's actually very comforting and... exalting, one might say... when we're that close, and it's particularly special when it happens through music we share. Maybe you and your Kin would find it so as well.
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I'm a great believer in "practice makes perfect", and it might help if you and Jeremey practice together - switch in and out, co-front, do 'duets', play around with the music - so when you get out in front of the audience, it won't seem so strange. You may find that the two of you together achieve a whole new style, a synthesis of your different techniques that's better than either of you individually. I haven't yet managed to sing while Crist-Erui plays, but when we practice together we can sometimes switch back and forth almost seamlessly, and maybe eventually he'll be able to do the instrumentals while I do the vocals, which would be awesome.
"And when we inevitably end up messily co-fronting, I have big problems with both sorting out my identity from everyone else's (which is what I always do to stay sane, anyway)"
Consider this: maybe it's not necessary for you to sort out your identity from everyone else's - maybe it'll just naturally sort itself out if you just relax and let it do so. I can always tell myself and Kír apart, but I can't always tell myself and Crist-Erui apart, and Kír says sometimes he feels that the boundary between himself and Crist-Erui isn't clear. It's actually very comforting and... exalting, one might say... when we're that close, and it's particularly special when it happens through music we share. Maybe you and your Kin would find it so as well.