We've seen other groups here talk about peer pressure. We've been ignoring it, and growling now and then when someone shifts to attacking. Finding people or groups that can understand how things are for you can be a lot of help when you're in a rough spot. Talking about soulbonds or lilspeak or whatever's getting people riled up this week is fine; calling people names and metaphorically spitting on them is either a nasty kind of peer pressure or an attempt to drive them off.
We do find value in learning about other groups - it offers us new ideas to explore within ourselves and sometimes has been very helpful to us. Exposure to new communication tools and viewpoints has done great things for our community.
Mentioning the ISH brings up a good point. We need a tshirt saying "ROLE != IDENTITY". Roles are cardboard cutouts, abstractions helpful for understanding interactions. A person may hold several of the common roles, or none at all.
Undiscovered others... we've gone rattling about inside a couple times when we've seen signs that someone was in here who wasn't a recognized part of our community. We assumed that was what those posters were doing, but you have a point there.
Heard of the numbers thing, though we haven't been really exposed to it much - sounds like a load to us. It may be more of an indicator of what coping tools were available to (or preferred by) the group.
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We do find value in learning about other groups - it offers us new ideas to explore within ourselves and sometimes has been very helpful to us. Exposure to new communication tools and viewpoints has done great things for our community.
Mentioning the ISH brings up a good point. We need a tshirt saying "ROLE != IDENTITY". Roles are cardboard cutouts, abstractions helpful for understanding interactions. A person may hold several of the common roles, or none at all.
Undiscovered others... we've gone rattling about inside a couple times when we've seen signs that someone was in here who wasn't a recognized part of our community. We assumed that was what those posters were doing, but you have a point there.
Heard of the numbers thing, though we haven't been really exposed to it much - sounds like a load to us. It may be more of an indicator of what coping tools were available to (or preferred by) the group.