I think one of the stronger outside signs with us is how different we each are in terms of tastes (as well as body language and demeanour). If someone goes out to dinner with me they'll get "yum! ice cream!" and with Lyria she doesn't eat it.
That goes from the fairly shallow (ice cream) to the fairly deep (sexual orientation) and has been something that people have commented on even when completely oblivious to other things. I think it comes out because people can ignore a lot of things under the "one person" assumption, but if it's commonly shared-with-friends interests, then switching around really impacts on the friendship or relationship.
(This is one reason we don't like the phone, I think. In the past being around a friend was a pull to the front for the "right" person, but on the phone it wasn't so clear, and so we would get situations like my friend saying "Oh! I got tickets to see Rush!" and the person on the phone would be less than enthusiastic, and then we'd have a little muddle. Sigh.)
It is hard to say "diverse interests" is a symptom of anything, because it's such a fuzzy thing (and one can hear the cries of 'fake' from far away), but then so is losing time vs. forgetfulness.
We also display different talents and that kind of thing. As our old music coach said at one time "in competition 9 times out of 10 you play at the top of your ability, but the 10th time it seems like you can barely play at all." (That tenth time would have been me!!) Again, not really a definitive thing, but it's something I have seen in other multiples.
But - we have had the relatively spectacular time loss incidents in the past, so that was even clearer.
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That goes from the fairly shallow (ice cream) to the fairly deep (sexual orientation) and has been something that people have commented on even when completely oblivious to other things. I think it comes out because people can ignore a lot of things under the "one person" assumption, but if it's commonly shared-with-friends interests, then switching around really impacts on the friendship or relationship.
(This is one reason we don't like the phone, I think. In the past being around a friend was a pull to the front for the "right" person, but on the phone it wasn't so clear, and so we would get situations like my friend saying "Oh! I got tickets to see Rush!" and the person on the phone would be less than enthusiastic, and then we'd have a little muddle. Sigh.)
It is hard to say "diverse interests" is a symptom of anything, because it's such a fuzzy thing (and one can hear the cries of 'fake' from far away), but then so is losing time vs. forgetfulness.
We also display different talents and that kind of thing. As our old music coach said at one time "in competition 9 times out of 10 you play at the top of your ability, but the 10th time it seems like you can barely play at all." (That tenth time would have been me!!) Again, not really a definitive thing, but it's something I have seen in other multiples.
But - we have had the relatively spectacular time loss incidents in the past, so that was even clearer.