We know a group with a kind of "I and they" situation; the "they" rarely come out because of safety concerns (not wanting to be "caught" multiple), if I understand correctly.
We have a different sort of "I and they" situation; there's someone who's almost always there no matter who else is fronting. [Yes, and she still needs a holiday during which she can actually read.] [Instead of being dragged along by a bunch of kids, you mean? Lady, if you need anything it's a bit of fun.] It often makes it hard to tell who's talking, and sometimes even who's there.
On there being people who show up and leave: we have that too, and sometimes we don't know what to make of it. They might turn out to be residents. The way we deal with it is that if we've seen them before ("This seems a lot like the girl in the tree on that photo from when we were 11") we tend to assume they belong here and will stay; if they're people we have (had) a "strong impression" of over a period of time (such as, they were or seem to have been a character in a story we made) we're less sure we should assume this, but we stay very open to the possibility; if they're people we can't place at all we sort of... let the matter be. No prying. If they want to come back they'll probably find a way. We also have this idea that there may be a "place" in the psyche where people come into being and/or "grow", and that sometimes someone from that place has a peek outside when they feel safe in doing so.
We have/had one person who went so far as to give herself a name, but doesn't seem to have spoken up on more than two or three occasions, and then briefly. She was annoyed with us for doing certain things the complicated way (and getting all confused) when there was an obvious, simple way to do them. Maybe she isn't here more because it's just too much of a hassle.
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We have a different sort of "I and they" situation; there's someone who's almost always there no matter who else is fronting. [Yes, and she still needs a holiday during which she can actually read.] [Instead of being dragged along by a bunch of kids, you mean? Lady, if you need anything it's a bit of fun.] It often makes it hard to tell who's talking, and sometimes even who's there.
On there being people who show up and leave: we have that too, and sometimes we don't know what to make of it. They might turn out to be residents. The way we deal with it is that if we've seen them before ("This seems a lot like the girl in the tree on that photo from when we were 11") we tend to assume they belong here and will stay; if they're people we have (had) a "strong impression" of over a period of time (such as, they were or seem to have been a character in a story we made) we're less sure we should assume this, but we stay very open to the possibility; if they're people we can't place at all we sort of... let the matter be. No prying. If they want to come back they'll probably find a way. We also have this idea that there may be a "place" in the psyche where people come into being and/or "grow", and that sometimes someone from that place has a peek outside when they feel safe in doing so.
We have/had one person who went so far as to give herself a name, but doesn't seem to have spoken up on more than two or three occasions, and then briefly. She was annoyed with us for doing certain things the complicated way (and getting all confused) when there was an obvious, simple way to do them. Maybe she isn't here more because it's just too much of a hassle.
And I have no idea who wrote this :)