If you want to coax a little out, you have to convince them that it is entirely *safe* for them to come out. They have to believe you. So if you buy them toys, and then you sit on the floor with the toys and feel frustrated, that doesn't feel safe, it feels more like a trap. If you sit with the toys and don't get annoyed and talk to him inside your head, reassure him that it is okay, kind of like imagine yourself holding him in your lap or something else comforting so that he can do something in the body but still feel safe. I have found that sometimes artwork is easier to get into, because I can start as an adult and then transition to little without thinking about it so hard. But you need to block out time for that, and you need to make sure you won't be disturbed.
If you are the one consistently front, chances are that's because everyone wants you to be, particularly as it seems you are more than willing to let others share time. If *you* want them to come out, you've got to convince them it's safe to do so.
As for losing time, just because "you" remember everything doesn't mean you're always fronting, at least I don't find that to be a good indicator. Someone else could be keeping track of what's going on and filling you in when you need to (or try to) remember.
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Date: 2004-07-26 08:30 am (UTC)If you are the one consistently front, chances are that's because everyone wants you to be, particularly as it seems you are more than willing to let others share time. If *you* want them to come out, you've got to convince them it's safe to do so.
As for losing time, just because "you" remember everything doesn't mean you're always fronting, at least I don't find that to be a good indicator. Someone else could be keeping track of what's going on and filling you in when you need to (or try to) remember.