It doesn't have to be abusers per se...most of the people who got the 'treatment' were people who picked on me or teachers i hated. was theraputic.

if she's obsessed with pain, get her to try this - hold icecubes in your hands for a minute or so, then plunge your hands in warm to middling hot water. she'll get her pain, and the body won't end up with a stack of scars.