[identity profile] rabbitsystem.livejournal.com posting in [community profile] multiplicity_archives
I've noticed that many multiples keep their journals entirely friends-locked. Why? Is it avoiding trolls or a liking for privacy or what? I don't mean people shouldn't lock their journals, I just want to know...why?

-Ellen

Date: 2007-09-19 01:15 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] browncoatrebel.livejournal.com
We make some entries public, mostly random tidbits, memes, or funny anecdotes. Any personal stuff, we f-lock. It is due to a troll, but not multiplicity-related, for us.

Date: 2007-09-19 01:16 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] shadowsgroup.livejournal.com
I guess for the same reasons a lot of singlets f-lock their journals. It's not exactly a multiple only phenomenon.

As for us, we're rather private individuals and hence desire privacy.

Date: 2007-09-19 01:16 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] thunder-weather.livejournal.com
My group and I keep our journals friends-only or primarily so for privacy. Some things I post could probably be public, but much of what I write is personal and not anything I want to share except with others who understand my situation. The same is true for my group. However, the Vox I keep is partly public. I'm more relaxed there.

Date: 2007-09-19 01:31 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] liferain.livejournal.com
Personally I do it because I don't want the entire Internet reading my entries (not that I have anything important to say). It can become fodder for ridicule and whatnot.

Vi, however, doesn't keep her journal locked at all.

Date: 2007-09-19 01:33 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] lb-lee.livejournal.com
Easy. We joined LJ back when we were singlet, and people we knew off screen friended us, people we never plan to let know our multiplicity. This is because they have no sense of discretion. Admittedly, if they really thought about it and went through our comms, they could figure it out, but still, we don't want to introduce the concept to them that way.

Date: 2007-09-19 01:46 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] linnai.livejournal.com
We keep our journal locked largely for privacy purposes. We'll share anything with you if we trust you and know that you won't judge us. But we spent our whole lives being judged really damn harshly and we're just not into it. We like our friends, but we don't trust most other people in the world and for a good many things, we don't even trust most of our friends, just our partner system. So we keep things locked up and impose filters to restrict access.

I mean, trolls are a part of it, but that's just to avoid having a problem with them. We haven't really had a troll on our journal and don't let people we don't know/don't trust be involved in our lives.

Plus, we talk about personal stuff and that's just not what you want hanging out there on the internet for literally ANYONE to read about, you know?

Date: 2007-09-19 01:46 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] cold-ataraxy.livejournal.com
We know too many people off-screen. Certainly we explain eventually. We would rather it be later than sooner, though.

Well hi there, dude!

Date: 2008-08-01 04:12 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] brandon2431.livejournal.com
Hope you got some stamps.

It's a shame people have to worry about being judged if they come out as multi. (Refer in history books to gay community.) We, are both multiple, and gay. So yeah, that coming out stuff, even online, is interesting to say the least.....

Do hope you're well. And hope you get your stamps. You sound like someone who has a lot to contribute.

Blessings.

Date: 2007-09-19 01:48 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] tej-agni.livejournal.com
the same reason that like people have a key for their paper diary. ♥
LeAnne
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Date: 2007-09-19 02:02 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] tej-agni.livejournal.com
do you guys like use your IJ?
LeAnne

Date: 2007-09-19 11:39 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] withfangs.livejournal.com
He keeps trying to, but ends up on his GJ more.

Date: 2007-09-19 01:55 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] withfangs.livejournal.com
I kept a private journal for a while b/c I didn't want people in my Art department to see that I was multiple and therefore crazy.

Now, I just kind of...don't say anything overtly, but my journal is open unless I name-names of people that I know at work or at school, and really, that's only to prevent off screen drama from happening. Although, a lot of people in my depts are cool and probably wouldn't care about the multiple personallities (it's already a joke at work). But, we're trying to get into grad school and I don't want more BS than the process will already entail for me.

being multiple

Date: 2008-08-01 04:16 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] brandon2431.livejournal.com
"Multiple and therefore crazy". Yeah. That's got us madder than hell these days.
That b*******llsh*********t has come close to ruining our life; our soon to be ex-husband's life (still friends with the guy); and it has had a terrible impact on our children's lives.
Hate that sh**********t. Know it's a reality.....but have to think it can change, man. It's too foul to just leave it be. We gotta do what we can to change it. Yeah it. Change the sh*********t.

Date: 2007-09-19 02:03 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] ex-suhina987.livejournal.com
When we used this journal for more than answering communities, we used to speak frequently about private relationships in it. As we tended to post about that subject matter more than any other, it seemed extremely one-sided to present nothing but memes to the world and keep the important things locked up. In the end, we decided to simply lock everything.

Since we've moved to journaling at other services, all sorts of journals: entirely open, entirely locked, and filtered.

Date: 2007-09-19 02:17 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] freakshownia.livejournal.com
Same reason as singlets - we like our privacy =)

Date: 2007-09-19 02:25 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] phen0type.livejournal.com
We are a very private group, and we would rather not have certain people seeing our entries.

Richard
Fen Group

Date: 2007-09-19 02:30 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] rhymer-713.livejournal.com
Hmm. For us, *our journal is locked because of trolls. We're afraid people will sneak in and make nasty comments or whatnot. But we'd actually like to make it more public.

Date: 2007-09-19 02:31 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] catskillmarina.livejournal.com
There were several incidents.

The first was we found a person who had met us once was trashing us with a group
of her friends. The journal got filtered more.

Then kid of our then partner was trashing our partner on the net and we objected leading
to a lot of drama. The journal got filtered more.

Then a business deal we were involved in devolved into lawsuits among the other partners. That led to more filtering.

We found out that one of the partners involved in the fight was privatly saying that
we were faking our multiplicity, that she knew all about it because she took a couple
of psych courses before she dropped out of college and worked as an orderly in a
mental institutions.

That one was pretty much the last straw.

....If you want to read our journal, friend us and we we gradually open our filters
as we feel comfortable with you.

---- miri of Mtribe

coming out....

Date: 2008-08-01 04:21 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] brandon2431.livejournal.com
"....she understood because she'd taken a couple of psych courses and worked in an institution."
We're not even gonna trip about how much that foul sh***********t makes us mad, because we've been doing too much ranting lately, not good for our brain.

But yeah. Have we ever dealth with that one. Oh, yeah.

People think they know stuff they don't have the first clue about....

Ignorant, unenlightened, sometimes downright stupid.
As a (multi) friend of ours puts it, paraphrasing Ron White, "Ignorance can be fixed. Stupidity can't." (Think she's on to something.....)

Date: 2007-09-19 03:09 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] chocomookielove.livejournal.com
Mostly because my friends are real internet-surfers, and if they ran upon my journal, they'd probably immediately realize it was me. I do intend to tell them about all of the stuff I put in this journal eventually, just not all in one fell swoop like how my journal is currently presented.

Date: 2007-09-19 05:02 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] squnq.livejournal.com
All of my entries on the matter are both friendslocked and filtered.

Date: 2007-09-19 07:03 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] netdancer.livejournal.com
Privacy.

We have exes on LJ, and those people don't need access to our thoughts and feelings.

Date: 2007-09-19 07:42 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] mirrorbrothers.livejournal.com
We got this journal originally just to post to this community, so we just didn't tell anyone who doesn't know about Johnny that we have it. But if we had, we'd definitely take steps not to out ourselves to our nosy sisters by accident.

Date: 2007-09-19 08:57 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] ksol1460.livejournal.com
We are almost entirely open on line, closeted in person. We rarely talk about our experience being multiple on our LJ, partly because we take it for granted and expect others to do the same. A locked entry means we're talking about something personal or a family matter.

Date: 2007-09-19 11:26 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] coldironkiss.livejournal.com
In our case, we used to have a "singlet" LJ and moved, taking some friends with us but not others. We don't want to give any more hints than necessary, if someone randomly starts clicking friends lists, that the two are connected.

Date: 2007-09-19 12:05 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] pthalo
Our abuser found our old angelfire website when we were a teenager. After that, we've been really careful with what information is publically available about us.

Date: 2007-09-19 12:24 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] catchild.livejournal.com
Our main journal (this one) is not friends only, but it is highly filtered. What we write and don't lock varies but is mostly stuff we don't mind a potential employer or our ex-lovers/friends reading.

The journals of the younger members of our system are entirely friends only to protect them, and to prevent them from having to filter things. If we don't want someone reading personal stuff that the littles write we won't friend them.

~Berry

Date: 2007-09-19 12:25 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] inner-chatter.livejournal.com
Privacy, and also to keep an ex of our host/core from us. He knows her private journal username and could easily find us through that profile, and we don't need his creepy butt stalking around our journal. But, mostly we're just very private people who don't want to world to know what's we've been through and what we're healing from. Especially the kids.

Date: 2007-09-19 03:28 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] raze--the-rose.livejournal.com
If anybody in my family was clever enough to remember my mentions of my online name, they could search for and find this journal. I have too many issues in my life that they either caused or simply can't help me with, so I lock it from most people.

Date: 2007-09-19 04:55 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] krystale.livejournal.com
Tons of all sorts of people keep them locked, you just can't see it. As for us we keep ours open. We don't post much. And online if some idiot is nasty we can just delete it. And if it's someone I know offline and they actually want to start something with us... well... fine. ::various laughs and giggles:: It's their funeral, so to speak.

Date: 2007-09-19 06:29 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] shade-durza.livejournal.com
We all like to talk openly without worrying who's reading along. We us it as a diary and not so much to keep in contact with others, but if somebody happens to be interested we can decide to add them. It also keeps unwanted people out; trolls, my ex who already haresses me on the i-net and people who could seriously cause me harm in real life if they found out about us.

Date: 2007-09-19 08:24 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] weirdiguess.livejournal.com
I've had a troll, had my journal linked off-site to be mocked, have plenty of people I'm not exactly friends with I don't want reading it, and just like the feeling of being able to post openly that it gives me.

~Selene

Date: 2007-09-20 04:38 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] de-linques.livejournal.com
Our journal is friends-locked right now. Mostly it's because the body's mother has a habit of stalking her children via the Internet and we want to have a measure of control over that. We're also a little worried about people from work or other venues where we present as a singlet (or several singlets) finding the journal and using it against us. Most of our friends list are people we know IRL who already know we're multiple. We've been shy about friending other multiples because we're shy. ^^; We should open it up a little more so we can make friends on LJ more easily, but as a whole we're very shy. As I've said. ^^


- Webster but mostly Shell

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